Notice this part of the forum hasn't gotten much action in the last few months, so hopefully there's someone still willing to help me out. Also hope this is the right forum! I apologize if it's not and I'm happy to repost it.
So I'm... pretty inexperienced. It's only been the last four years that I've come to terms with and explored my sexuality, and really only the last year that things have clicked for me regarding my true gender. I've been a stable relationship for almost 2 years now, after a particularly nasty breakup that really made me feel horrible about myself and question if I was doing anything right.
Unfortunately it's a long-distance relationship, so we don't have the same opportunities as other couples to get as comfortable with each other as I'd prefer we be. Our experiences in intimacy have been rather chaste thus far, and I'm not complaining: I'd rather take things slower than feel pressured to do something without any confidence, which is what happened before.
Wow, I'm rambling. I had a point somewhere, let me see where I left it...
So I'm of a large size, as is my lady. I've always been self-conscious about my size, but being able to please my partner has, in the past, made me forget about it and actually feel confident and sexy and powerful. Problem is, I'd like to try more vigorous activities. I really want to try a strap-on. It just feels "right" to me, to be in that role. My lady is very much into the idea, we even bought a nice one and I'm likely going to invest in a better harness.
I've tried it before, and the combination of the straps not really providing adequate support, my ex not providing adequate assistance and looking at me like I was nuts, and my weight making it difficult to really coordinate positions, I'm very anxious about it. My eagerness to try again with the right girl outpaces that, but I still feel like there's something I'm missing.
Any tips from larger guys out there for strappy use and penetrative sex?
Thanks for any help you can give me!