Army Wives

[AlphaDrug]

My girlfriend, Alicia left for the army today, I'm absolutely heart broken. I want to hear from other girls with girlfriends in the army, experiences, comments, words of wisdom, suggestions, etc.

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[Toughy]

I don't mean to rain on your parade here..............however...........Don't Ask, Don't Tell (DADT) IS still the policy of the Armed Forces. President Obama has NOT stopped folks getting kicked out of the military in this interim period. I would strongly advise you not to put any pictures of your girl on this website until DADT is no longer in the UCMJ (uniform code of military justice). It can be considered 'telling'.

If you are in a relationship with someone in the military, the first thing you need to know is you are not the number 1 priority in her life. She is in the military 24/7 and is at the beck and call of the military. She has no Constitutional Rights. The rights she has are enumerated in the UCMJ. Her life belongs to the military.....they can decide she is off to war and ship her to where ever the fuck they want, for as long as they want, with little to no communication with any civilian including a spouse.

Depending on her job in the military, she mostly likely will be in the Middle East within a year....in a war zone. The pay sucks by the way.

Being the partner of someone in the military is not a cakewalk. You need a support system that understands the demands of the military. Heterosexual spouses have each other as support. It's going to be hard for homosexual spouses to find that built in support system during this period of change to full integration of gay folks. It's not easy to be the heterosexual spouse and being the homosexual spouse is going to be harder.

Get your support system in place............it needs to be a system that understands the demands and hardships you will face as the spouse. If you are the kind who really depends on your spouse or is jealous you will not find this to be a good experience for you and you will compromise her ability to effectively do her job.

I'm not speaking out of my ass here..........I am a Vietnam-era veteran.......I did 7 years in the Women's Army Corp/US Army.

Good luck and get your support system in place so you can provide her with a loving supportive safe home.