For single femmes who like FTM, and single FTMs who like femmes - Dating thread.

**iamkeri1** · 05-14-2008, 11:33 PM

There was another thread started recently for single FTM/Transmen to write about themselves. Interested femmes get to ask them questions or to contact them by PM if they are interested. It is a great thread for femmes who think they might be attracted to these guys, but have lots of questions about the process itself. I don't have these kinds of questions. I know I like FTMs. I want to know things about you as a person. How old are you? Do you have kids? Do you like your job? What are your future plans.? Are you attacted to BBWs? Would it drive you crazy to be around a woman who sings - possibly the same song - all day, and knows the lyrics to every song played on the radio for the last ___ years?. Are you happy?

And I admit it, I am old school. I favor the male type people contacting the female type people. (But it is certainly OK for femmes to do the contacting too, if they want to)

I would like the thread to focus on meeting, greeting, and ultimately dating each other. Flirting on thread is A-OK. Bringing friends onto the thread and introducing them to other people they might be interested in, would be wonderful.

If your question is very personal like "How big is your_____?. that would be a good question to use a PM for. PMs would also be better for describing particular sexual activity you would lke to engage in.

If you want to ask a particular guy about using T or to define his chosen gender identity, that would be OK. But if you have a general question about such topics, take it to the "Ask the FTMs anything" thread. This thread is about romance or things leading to romance. Post info about yourself like you would if you were writing a personal ad. And hey, we all have good written communication skills or we wouldn't be posting here, so give some details.

Good luck ladies and gents.
Smooches,
Keri

**SebastianBruce** · 05-15-2008, 05:57 PM

Originally Posted by iamkeri1

There was another thread started recently for single FTM/Transmen to write about themselves. Interested femmes get to ask them questions or to contact them by PM if they are interested. It is a great thread for femmes who think they might be attracted to these guys, but have lots of questions about the process itself. I don't have these kinds of questions. I know I like FTMs. I want to know things about you as a person. How old are you? Do you have kids? Do you like your job? What are your future plans.? Are you attacted to BBWs? Would it drive you crazy to be around a woman who sings - possibly the same song - all day, and knows the lyrics to every song played on the radio for the last ___ years?. Are you happy?

And I admit it, I am old school. I favor the male type people contacting the female type people. (But it is certainly OK for femmes to do the contacting too, if they want to)

I would like the thread to focus on meeting, greeting, and ultimately dating each other. Flirting on thread is A-OK. Bringing friends onto the thread and introducing them to other people they might be interested in, would be wonderful.

If your question is very personal like "How big is your_____?. that would be a good question to use a PM for. PMs would also be better for describing particular sexual activity you would lke to engage in.

If you want to ask a particular guy about using T or to define his chosen gender identity, that would be OK. But if you have a general question about such topics, take it to the "Ask the FTMs anything" thread. This thread is about romance or things leading to romance. Post info about yourself like you would if you were writing a personal ad. And hey, we all have good written communication skills or we wouldn't be posting here, so give some details.

Good luck ladies and gents.
Smooches,
Keri

Hi Keri, some answers to your questions.... I'm 43yrs old..I have no children...presently I'm not employed, I'm a college student that is on disability...Just out of curiosity what is a BBW? It would be a tad bit tiresome, but it would be a nice thing if she did know all of the lyrics to the song... I'm reasonably happy...

**iamkeri1** · 05-15-2008, 11:47 PM

Hi Sebastian,
Thanks for posting. BBW means Big beautiful woman. Hope we both find who we are looking for.
Good Luck
Keri

**Lincoln** · 05-30-2008, 04:03 PM

I stumbled into this thread completely by accident. Was wandering around the forums, trying to see if there was anything new.

Ok, let's see if I remember the questions:

I'll be 33 in a little over a week (holy crap!). I work part time as a security officer at a medical clinic, and go to school, where I'm learning to be a medical assistant.

I don't have any kids, though I wouldn't mind dating someone with kids. I don't drink, smoke or do drugs. I am very much attracted to BBW as my primary body type that I like.

I do some activism in my "spare" time, as well as contributing to a blog called Crummy Church Signs. It's very cool!

I'm about 5ft5, have green eyes and brown hair, am on the stocky side myself, and am overall pretty furry.

Life has been a mixed bag...I'm working on being a lot happier than I have been! :-)

I like my security job..it pays just enough for me to slide by working two days a week so I can focus on school. After I have my Medical Assisting thing going on, I'm thinking about going into Jail Health Services. Transgender and jail issues are where a lot of my activism has focused lately, so it seems like a natural fit.

Is that it? Am I done?

Lincoln

**iamkeri1** · 05-30-2008, 09:47 PM

Hi Lincoln! No you are not done. Not if you want to find somebody, anyway. You must come back fairly frequently and engage in conversation and perhaps various online flirting techniques. This thread is about finding the woman of our dreams, and you can't do that if you don't come back. Thanks so much for "signing in"
Smooches,
Keri

Is that it? Am I done?

Lincoln[/quote]

**Lincoln** · 05-31-2008, 03:27 PM

[quote=iamkeri1;2869279]Hi Lincoln! No you are not done. Not if you want to find somebody, anyway. You must come back fairly frequently and engage in conversation and perhaps various online flirting techniques. This thread is about finding the woman of our dreams, and you can't do that if you don't come back. Thanks so much for "signing in"
Smooches,
Keri

Well, I guess I been told!

I'll be poppin in and out then...

Lincoln

**mistyblue9802200** · 05-30-2008, 04:18 PM

Originally Posted by iamkeri1

There was another thread started recently for single FTM/Transmen to write about themselves. Interested femmes get to ask them questions or to contact them by PM if they are interested. It is a great thread for femmes who think they might be attracted to these guys, but have lots of questions about the process itself. I don't have these kinds of questions. I know I like FTMs. I want to know things about you as a person. How old are you? Do you have kids? Do you like your job? What are your future plans.? Are you attacted to BBWs? Would it drive you crazy to be around a woman who sings - possibly the same song - all day, and knows the lyrics to every song played on the radio for the last ___ years?. Are you happy?

And I admit it, I am old school. I favor the male type people contacting the female type people. (But it is certainly OK for femmes to do the contacting too, if they want to)

I would like the thread to focus on meeting, greeting, and ultimately dating each other. Flirting on thread is A-OK. Bringing friends onto the thread and introducing them to other people they might be interested in, would be wonderful.

If your question is very personal like "How big is your_____?. that would be a good question to use a PM for. PMs would also be better for describing particular sexual activity you would lke to engage in.

If you want to ask a particular guy about using T or to define his chosen gender identity, that would be OK. But if you have a general question about such topics, take it to the "Ask the FTMs anything" thread. This thread is about romance or things leading to romance. Post info about yourself like you would if you were writing a personal ad. And hey, we all have good written communication skills or we wouldn't be posting here, so give some details.

Good luck ladies and gents.
Smooches,
Keri

Good Evening Keri

Great thread btw

I ID as a *TransensualQueerFemme* as my energy is best suited with the energy of Trans & Ftms

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**KavemanKyle** · 05-30-2008, 08:11 PM

I guess you could call me a single FTM, though I don't feel there's much room in my life right now for a full-time girlfriend. I live where I live in order to get a series of 9 phallo surgeries, which I just started May 9, so there's no moving or even traveling in the cards until at least the end of the year.

I'm 5'8", brown/blue, 160 lbs., do not smoke or use drugs, and drink in moderation. I'm college educated, make a decent hourly wage, and wouldn't mind being the sole bread winner depending on the situation.

My hobbies are writing songs and learning about my favorite band, The Beatles.

I require complete devotion and total trust from a girl. Until recently, I've never even had to bring this up--it just always was--and I guess I took that for granted and got burned. That's why my profile says "Gun shy."

I am a kute but not kuddly Kaveman, so please heed the warning label.

**mistyblue9802200** · 05-31-2008, 04:47 AM

Originally Posted by KavemanKyle

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I am a kute but not kuddly Kaveman, so please heed the warning label.

Good Morning KavemanKyle

Hummmmmmm heed the warnin indeedy

thankyou for makin me smile sweetheart have a wunderful day

**MsLinus** · 05-31-2008, 05:09 AM

*peeks in*

**KavemanKyle** · 05-31-2008, 09:43 AM

Originally Posted by mistyblue9802200

Good Morning KavemanKyle

Hummmmmmm heed the warnin indeedy

thankyou for makin me smile sweetheart have a wunderful day

Is this where the flirting thing comes in? Hi Misty. You're not so brave. You know I can't travel and you're a bazillion miles away.

**Gabriella** · 05-31-2008, 09:59 PM

That was really kind of funny........In a good way...

Originally Posted by KavemanKyle

Is this where the flirting thing comes in? Hi Misty. You're not so brave. You know I can't travel and you're a bazillion miles away.

**iamkeri1** · 05-31-2008, 08:47 PM

Originally Posted by KavemanKyle;2869223
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I am a kute but not kuddly Kaveman, so please heed the warning label.[/COLOR]

So Kyle, If cuddling's out, what do you do, Hop on and off?
Come on....there's got to be a little cuddling any way, if only for the sake of politeness, LOL

Oops, now that I think about it, with nine phallo surgeries under way, you're probably not doing much other than saying "OUCH!!!:

Sorry your trust was damaged. As you heal from the multiple surgeries and grow more into your new self, I hope your trust will heal as well.

Smiles,
Keri

**KavemanKyle** · 06-01-2008, 04:17 PM

Originally Posted by iamkeri1

So Kyle, If cuddling's out, what do you do, Hop on and off?
Come on....there's got to be a little cuddling any way, if only for the sake of politeness, LOL

Oops, now that I think about it, with nine phallo surgeries under way, you're probably not doing much other than saying "OUCH!!!:

Sorry your trust was damaged. As you heal from the multiple surgeries and grow more into your new self, I hope your trust will heal as well.

Smiles,
Keri

Hi Keri. Thanks for your kind hopes for my healing.

It's not that cuddling is non-existent. But once I'm aroused, things progress rapidly and there's no time for it. Afterward, I like the girl to lay her head on my chest while we rest. I guess some would consider that cuddling.

Just in general, I'm not the cuddly type. When it comes to physical contact I'm more a man of action.

**Lincoln** · 06-05-2008, 04:32 PM

Wanders in:

Hey everyone! *waves to paintedleo* Hi!

Hi Keri! Hey Kyle!

I have to go though. I need to do some studying before class tonight...

take care!

**PureFemme777** · 08-26-2008, 06:51 PM

Originally Posted by KavemanKyle

I am a kute but not kuddly Kaveman, so please heed the warning label.

As usual...shyly peeking my head in...Kyle...is the warning that you do not like to cuddle, or that you are 'kute'?

I'm teasing on you and I hope you know that...for whatever reason, the above caught my eye...

Have a WONDERFUL evening my single friends.

**A+Daddy** · 08-26-2008, 09:39 PM

Good Evening Ladies and Gents..
Jus A Friendly East Texas Guy dropping by ...
Daddy Hugs to ALL
Daddy Wes ...
Drop by and say hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii
DaddyWes

**inkedup** · 08-26-2008, 09:45 PM

While I have an amazing network of friends who just happen to be FTMs, I hadn't really been attracted to FTMs (not disgusted by them by any stretch of the imagination) until recently. Now, I can't STOP thinkin about y'all!!!

**KavemanKyle** · 10-11-2008, 05:15 PM

Looks like the kute warning should be for YOU, PF. I'll stick with not being kuddly.

KK

Originally Posted by PureFemme777

As usual...shyly peeking my head in...Kyle...is the warning that you do not like to cuddle, or that you are 'kute'?

I'm teasing on you and I hope you know that...for whatever reason, the above caught my eye...

Have a WONDERFUL evening my single friends.

**terry5252** · 06-15-2008, 01:29 PM

Hi! I'm not single, but I was looking for an FTM group to join. I'm FTM, pre-op - Top surgery scheduled for Oct. 1. Love you beautiful femmes!

**BearEmotion** · 06-15-2008, 03:59 PM

single guy here..
I am thankful for the women who are attracted to who they are attracted too regardless of lables
though in practice I really have not seen this ..
i have experianced that though some women are attracted too me it boils down to the fact that i am in fact a trans MAN and they cannot in reality reconcile with this fact
It makes it difficult to even try and date at all in some respects..which is why i am slowly hesitant to believe anymore when someone tells me they are interested..because usually a month or a few weeks later they tell me i really dont think i could be with a man...
so , this is a good thread.. where are the women.?..

**iamkeri1** · 06-17-2008, 10:18 PM

Originally Posted by BearEmotion

single guy here..
I am thankful for the women who are attracted to who they are attracted too regardless of lables
though in practice I really have not seen this ..
i have experianced that though some women are attracted too me it boils down to the fact that i am in fact a trans MAN and they cannot in reality reconcile with this fact
It makes it difficult to even try and date at all in some respects..which is why i am slowly hesitant to believe anymore when someone tells me they are interested..because usually a month or a few weeks later they tell me i really dont think i could be with a man...
so , this is a good thread.. where are the women.?..

Hi Bear E.
That's why I started this thread for people who KNOW they like FTMs. I was married to my late husband for 25 years. We started as a lesbian couple. Took him two years to tell me about his true gender. (I was pretty active in the lesbian community.) We spent a few more years gathering information and for hubby to decide exactly what he wanted to do. Then TRANSITION and 15 years as a couple seen by all who knew us as heterosexual. Hubby was adored by my family, and was the keeper of several family secrets. People told him stuff. They found him very understanding open and accepting. He loved them back.

Anyway... long story short, he was an ideal fit for me. Having started where he started he knew what women were about. Having moved to the gender of his choice he was very strong and loving and well "normal." And very much a man.

Yes there are femmes (women") out there who KNOW they want guys like you. Be wary if you must, but at least stick your toe in.
Welcome.
Smooches,
Keri

**HumV4me** · 06-17-2008, 11:11 PM

~~peeks in~~

**Anna Valerious** · 06-18-2008, 05:33 AM

Another femme peeking in!

**LeeP** · 11-19-2008, 10:59 AM

Originally Posted by HumV4me

~~peeks in~~

((((((SHOUTING)))))))

...cover your eyes!

here, put this on

.

**Darbonaire** · 12-11-2008, 06:40 AM

Originally Posted by BearEmotion

single guy here..
I am thankful for the women who are attracted to who they are attracted too regardless of lables
though in practice I really have not seen this ..
i have experianced that though some women are attracted too me it boils down to the fact that i am in fact a trans MAN and they cannot in reality reconcile with this fact
It makes it difficult to even try and date at all in some respects..which is why i am slowly hesitant to believe anymore when someone tells me they are interested..because usually a month or a few weeks later they tell me i really dont think i could be with a man...
so , this is a good thread.. where are the women.?..

Hey Bear,

I used to feel the same way. I actually got told I was "too male" by an ex...let me tell you THAT stung...lol....I can laugh about it now but WOW...not then for sure. I knew I was male all my life & was "labled" a lesbian because I loved women & had a femaletype body....so when I was 30 I realized there was a "way" to realign my outer self to my inner self & that was when I was born...truly. I dated & lived with several women who ID'd as lesbian & "said" they were fine with a "guy" like me...but they weren't...& that's ok really...we're not for everyone...LOL....I was tired of the hurts & decided that I was meant to be single because there was no one who could really accept all of me...it was when I told myself I was "OK" alone that my wife walked into my life. She told me in the very beginning that she "wasn't sure she could deal with it but would certainly like to try & see what happens"....I was ok with that because she was being honest & I was "ok" alone if it didn't work...we've been together 6 years now...married for 4.....I had only been on T for a few months when we met so there have been a LOT of changes...lol...the hair on my head moved down my back...being the WORST change I guess...<grin>....the thing I miss most is the hair on my head...lol..but I digress.....anyway, she HAS been able to "deal" with the changes & we're happily married & doing just grand.....there ARE women out there who CAN accept you as you are & who WILL be there for you....keep the faith & know that as trite as this may sound...when it's right you'll be given the gift...that's all man...sorry to be so long winded about it...keep the faith & believe.....

**BearEmotion** · 12-11-2008, 09:24 AM

Originally Posted by Darbonaire

Hey Bear,

I used to feel the same way. I actually got told I was "too male" by an ex...let me tell you THAT stung...lol....I can laugh about it now but WOW...not then for sure. I knew I was male all my life & was "labled" a lesbian because I loved women & had a femaletype body....so when I was 30 I realized there was a "way" to realign my outer self to my inner self & that was when I was born...truly. I dated & lived with several women who ID'd as lesbian & "said" they were fine with a "guy" like me...but they weren't...& that's ok really...we're not for everyone...LOL....I was tired of the hurts & decided that I was meant to be single because there was no one who could really accept all of me...it was when I told myself I was "OK" alone that my wife walked into my life. She told me in the very beginning that she "wasn't sure she could deal with it but would certainly like to try & see what happens"....I was ok with that because she was being honest & I was "ok" alone if it didn't work...we've been together 6 years now...married for 4.....I had only been on T for a few months when we met so there have been a LOT of changes...lol...the hair on my head moved down my back...being the WORST change I guess...<grin>....the thing I miss most is the hair on my head...lol..but I digress.....anyway, she HAS been able to "deal" with the changes & we're happily married & doing just grand.....there ARE women out there who CAN accept you as you are & who WILL be there for you....keep the faith & know that as trite as this may sound...when it's right you'll be given the gift...that's all man...sorry to be so long winded about it...keep the faith & believe.....

Thanks for theadvice.. since I posted that post i have indeed found someone who accepts me for me...and I am blessed that she has stood by my side even flying out to support me during the loss of my mother on Thanksgiving.. I am ever grateful for my friends and my sweet woman...and i concur faith is steadfast and a must..peace

**JustaGirl25** · 12-13-2008, 08:12 PM

I'm just popping my head back in here... Not much has changed... Still 25. Still single. Still searching for that perfect (or even far from perfect LOL) person that I can fall in love with and give my all too...

**iamkeri1** · 02-04-2009, 07:11 AM

Hi y'all.
Well, I guess we have all been busy doing other things, so our little dating thread has been neglected. Have y'all found someone? If not, I invite y'all to "come on back, now" and talk to us.
Smooches,
Keri

**Vv Kain vV** · 02-04-2009, 07:19 AM

Just stoppin in to say Good Morning.....hope you all enjoy your day.....

**JessicaKitty** · 02-04-2009, 10:35 AM

Originally Posted by iamkeri1

Hi y'all.
Well, I guess we have all been busy doing other things, so our little dating thread has been neglected. Have y'all found someone? If not, I invite y'all to "come on back, now" and talk to us.
Smooches,
Keri

Yeah ! I am still single snd here in a few days will be a year older

Kitty

**KavemanKyle** · 10-11-2008, 05:09 PM

Terry,
How did your surgery go?

KK

Originally Posted by terry5252

Hi! I'm not single, but I was looking for an FTM group to join. I'm FTM, pre-op - Top surgery scheduled for Oct. 1. Love you beautiful femmes!

**SCBeachFemme** · 02-26-2009, 11:29 AM

Originally Posted by terry5252

Hi! I'm not single, but I was looking for an FTM group to join. I'm FTM, pre-op - Top surgery scheduled for Oct. 1. Love you beautiful femmes!

Hummm your profile says single? Is there something she didn't tell you???

**Hardhat** · 10-11-2008, 08:31 PM

Wow glad I came on this evening and saw this thread! I'm a single FTM and would love to date and eventually find a life partner. So, ok I'll start answering questions
I am 51
I have a 31 year old son who lives in Denver. I live in NYC. I feel I am too old to start a new family with babies or young children, but I'm hoping to have grandchildren someday.
My job is being a furniture maker. I work for a designer and do like my job. I enjoy it more when I am designing my own pieces, which I do a little on the side. I worked as a union carpenter since 86, mostly heavy construction which I stopped doing last year. I don't miss that so much. I want more creativity in my work. Furniture making gives me more of that. I also like to write a little; mostly poetry.
I would like to be a place where I made what I wanted for galleries and not have to make a living working on other people's ideas. Although I have made reproductions such as Queen Ann, Mission, Shaker etc. I enjoy my own one of a kind contemporary pieces the best. I also play drums and would love to be in a band again.
I love New York, but I'm not completely closed off about living elsewhere.
I am not usually attracted to BBW, although there have been exceptions to that. My attraction is usually to Jewish women with dark wavy or curly hair and dark eyes. Also intelligence is a real turn on for me.
Hearing the same song all day long by my girlfriend or anyone would get to me.
If she knew the lyrics to every song played on the radio for the last - years, that would be fantastic! Music is important to me and that would be a big plus in my life.
Am I happy? hmmm... I am content with the life I have. It's good. Everyday I see the Statue of Liberty, The Empire State Building and the Brooklyn Bridge and everyday I appreciate them. I have 2 cats I love and adore. I have a good job with a boss I like and who respects me. I work out almost daily and run 2 or 3 times a week. I own a Harley and love to ride. I don't drink, drug, smoke or have any STDs. I have a lot to be thankful for, and I am. But, happy is pushing it. I've been single a while and I miss falling asleep and waking up with a woman I love. I can be alone just fine, but I want a lover.
Moe

**LeeP** · 11-27-2008, 12:36 PM

[QUOTE=iamkeri1;2854765][B][SIZE=3][COLOR=magenta]There was another thread [B][SIZE=3][COLOR=magenta][B][SIZE=3][COLOR=#ff00ff]If your question is very personal "How big is your_____?. that would be a good question to use a PM for. PMs would also be better for describing

Keri, my dear,
are you asking "How big is my heart? *giggle*

kiss kiss

Monsieur Lee

**Hardhat** · 11-27-2008, 12:54 PM

Nice to see this thread going again! Happy Thanksgiving everyone

**MysteryGuy** · 12-06-2008, 12:11 PM

*comes in with a bullhorn*

WAKE UP THREAD!!!!!

Or does this thread just need CPR????

**StarryNightaw** · 12-06-2008, 01:35 PM

*stands up and coughs*

Ahem..hi everyone

**MysteryGuy** · 12-06-2008, 07:11 PM

One person replied: where's the rest of ya????

I hope everyone is enjoying this month.

**iamkeri1** · 12-07-2008, 02:13 AM

[quote=LeeP;3003147]

Originally Posted by iamkeri1

[b][size=3][color=magenta]There was another thread [b][size=3][color=magenta][b][size=3][color=#ff00ff]If your question is very personal "How big is your_____?. that would be a good question to use a PM for. PMs would also be better for describing

Keri, my dear,
are you asking "How big is my heart? *giggle*

kiss kiss

Monsieur Lee

Dear Lee,
That absolutely IS what I meant. Glad you're enjoying the thread.
Smooches,
Keri