Originally Posted by
KrystleH
Well you can add my name to the definitely single list. I can't honestly say I am looking at this point. Fact is even if I was I doubt it would make any real difference in my life or social scene. However if I was looking, here's a list of things I look for (crossposted form a different thread):
the ability to laugh and make me laugh
the ability to have actual conversation with me on a variety of topics
some level of intellectual parity - neither so high above my own that I get lost and yet high enough that we can understand each other
honesty in actions and words. And who doesn't try the escape of deceit by omission
the ability to share feelings, and to help me share mine when I find it difficult
the ability to truly be there for me, as I am there for them
self-respect and respect for me
someone who isn't intimidated by my own "butch-ish" abilities around the house, nor who is going to complain about the time I take with my femme appearance.
some degree of common interests. not in everything but enough so that we can enjoy some activities together
enough of their own identity that it doesn't feel as if I am dating myself
the integrity to let me know when they need, or want, time alone or with their friends without me along. And to allow me the same
kindness
enough gentle nature to make me feel comfortable with intimacy and enough aggression to help me explore unknown aspects of my own sexuality. Someone who enjoys cuddling and pillow talk but also can let me know when they are craving a more raw sexual encounter
ethics, morals and scruples in how they conduct themselves in all areas of their life
who knows how and when to be silly and how and when to be serious
an appreciation for the child-like but an aversion to being childish
good hygiene
no smoking, drugs or drinking to excess. and respecting my desire to abstain from all 3
acceptance of who I am and what I am and enough understanding to deal with my unique physical and emotional shortcomings.
I don't care what they do for a living. I don't care about their level of education. I don't care about how much money they make. I only care about what's in their hearts, how they feel about me and how they conciously choose to live their life, ad whether it meshes well with mine.
Add in that relcatively close proximity is better. My track record of success with LDRs is pretty grim and I know the distance and inability to see someone I love other than every few months have been huge factors in the demise of said relationships.
And to answer some of the other questions posed here:
1. What is the strangest thing that makes you smile?
Children's cartoons
2. Your best sexual experience took place in what state?
A state of bliss of course
3. Do you have a lucky charm of some sort? (What is it? if yes and Why not? if no)
No. In fact I am totally lacking in charm. I don't even have a charm bracelet.
4. If you could be a back up singer for someone who would it be?
Whoever's career I wanted to totally trash
5. Is there a special trick that you can preform? (if so, what is it?)
It's impossible to describe. I have to show you in person. And before we get to that you have to at least buy me dinner and tell you me you love me.
6. Who was the first person to teach you about love?
My most recent ex and her boys
7. What is your favorite magazine?
Les Nouvelle Esthetiques
8. Can you follow directions?
Do you know the way to San Jose?
9. What was the subject in school that you did best in?
Soothing session massage or aromatherapy
10. Name the piece of art work which most impresses you?
Any happy child. Raising happy, well adjusted children is the highest form of art. It's not science since every child is amazingly unique and you have to deal with each one differently. it takes creativity, dedication, endurance and commitment. Just as any art form does.
11. What is the one skill as a single you are looking forward to giving up once you are safely ensconced in a new relationship?
killing time alone
12. Where do you find the most peace when your day is difficult?
in the pages of a book or in my bed
13. Can you talk about your past and smile?
During parts of it yes. Nobody gets to be my age and smiles over everything in their past
14. Are you the first person on your list and if not, why not?
What list? My grocery list? Sure, since I am single and only buy what *I* like
15. Which kind of jelly is your favorite?
strawberry preserves or seedless raspberry. Sometimes K-Y
16. Could you pick up and move in a month if you felt you really needed to?
I could do it emotionally, just can't handle it financially
17. Do you give good advice?
You'd have to ask the people I've advised. Just remember, you get what you pay for
18. Do you take good advice?
Good advice? Sure. Bad advice not so much
19. When do you know you have reached your limit with something?
A little bell goes off, then it buzzes noisily and finally the steam whistle blows and excess crap spews out of my mouth
20. When you see your friends what your traditional activity?
Chill, chat, watch TV or a movie, make/share dinner
) I've been talking with her since late Nov.'07. I couldn't ask her to meet in the middle. She talks about LA alot and how fun it is and her mother is not doing well That is why she moved back in the first place. MY Fantasies
I've go lots of them. But I will heed your words on the topic Thankyou.
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. I'm off today Going hiking in the woods with my trusty pooches. GOOD DAY TO ALL-ENJOY TODAY!
?) I love to read what she writes and one day I had to tell her- thats how we got to talking then we exchanged email addresses - I gave her my phone number and she called 
lol 
and off of this lovely femme.
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. My guy friends say I'm impulsive - shit!! Maybe it is just a game. I feel like a greyhound chasing one of those electric rabbits.
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