Really Single Butche and Femme List

[educand]

Hiya really single -ers... hope y'all are doing ok on this (very gray, here) Thursday afternoon... I saw this and decided to give it a go...

How Did You Last Find Out You Are Single???

1. Did you both agree it's best to end it?
2. Did one of you end it?
3. Do you need closure when ending relationships? and if so, do you feel you got it? and if not, why not?
4. Did your last relationship end because of a fight? cheating? what then?
5. Did you think you were in a relationship while your partner was saying they are "single"?
6. Do you still have items at their homes but still feel single? or even though it's over do you still feel attached?
7. Do you still talk to your most recent ex?
8. If your most recent ex called you right now and said "hi honey, I love you so much and want us to try again"...what would you do?
9. Is there a part of you that wants to call your recent ex and say those very words?
and if so, what keeps you from doing it?
10. Are you still in love with your most recent ex?

1. No, she agreed it was best to end it and I had to suck it up. Gosh, that sounds bitter... I'm seriously not, anymore; I just mean that no, it wasn't my decision at all.
2. She dumped me.
3. If "closure" means an agonizing, dragged-out processy, processy emotional psychoanalysis, no, I can skip it. If "closure" means we've discussed that the relationship is over, why ending it is preferable to continuing it, and how the situation developed in the first place, then yeah, I need that. In this case, I do think we had enough closure. We talked about it like mature adults and ended it with something approaching mutual understanding.
4. I fell in love and she didn't, so we broke up.
5. No, fortunately.
6. No, I don't still feel attached in a romantic way. I much prefer to make a clean break than to cling on after something's over. I don't still have things at her house.
7. Yes, we talk regularly. We're good friends now.
8. I'd be taken aback and would need to think about it very seriously before responding.
9. She's very well aware that I had strong feelings for her and has made it clear that they weren't returned in the same way. Any further pursuit would damage a friendship that I value highly.
10. Probably, but I've mostly been able to put it in perspective. My heart's free enough to give to another without undue reservation at this point.

Anyway... hey hey, almost the weekend! I know there's another thread on this, but anyone got anything fun planned?

[budli]

How Did You Last Find Out You Are Single???

1. Did you both agree it's best to end it?

No.

2. Did one of you end it?

I did. She was too cowardly to.

3. Do you need closure when ending relationships? and if so, do you feel you got it? and if not, why not?

Yes. Eventually , yes.

4. Did your last relationship end because of a fight? cheating? what then?

She cheated , wanted me to share her , i don't share.

5. Did you think you were in a relationship while your partner was saying they are "single"?

Found out many moons later that she never told anyone we were in a relationship , even thought everyone knew!

6. Do you still have items at their homes but still feel single? or even though it's over do you still feel attached?

I have a book about Greek Myths & Legends i would like back. I , in no way , feel attached to her , i do feel attached to the book tho...

7. Do you still talk to your most recent ex?

No. Haven't spoken since about 6 months after we split.

8. If your most recent ex called you right now and said "hi honey, I love you so much and want us to try again"...what would you do?

Laugh and hang up.

9. Is there a part of you that wants to call your recent ex and say those very words?
and if so, what keeps you from doing it?

Absolutely not!

10. Are you still in love with your most recent ex?

No.

[budli]

Hey Hiro,

You get Heroes in the UK? I have not read the book and will expectantly await your review of the movie. I am not sure if it is out on dvd. The art house video store is in the next town over and I do not get there often.

Thanks so very much for responding. I saw Fingersmith and adaption of a Sarah Waters book. I really enjoyed it. The gyrls were rather pretty.

N.

We most certainly do get Heroes here...i am well and truly hooked too , it just gets better each week.

Fingersmith was excellent , i also have the adaptation of Sarah Waters 'Tipping the Velvet' which was groundbreaking stuff for the BBC to show...and i found some of the women more attractive in that one , a few handsome butches

While i enjoy her writing & admire her as an author , i had the 'pleasure' of meeting her and found her obnoxious and arrogant.

Will let u know what i think of 'Perfume' once i've seen it.

[DallasLesbian]

well, i've finally caught up on the last 20-odd pages.... my eyes look like this but with big bags under each one...

Ms Budli Darlin where ya been? I haven't seen you in forever and a day.

[TwistedQueerGrrrl]

Dallas......in the REALLY singles list? Mmmm lemme find my lipstick

[DallasLesbian]

Dallas......in the REALLY singles list? Mmmm lemme find my lipstick

LOL, I figure after 2 yrs of being single I may as well join some sort of singles list

[TwistedQueerGrrrl]

LOL, I figure after 2 yrs of being single I may as well join some sort of singles list

There ya go cutie......get on out here and mingle with all the singles

[DallasLesbian]

There ya go cutie......get on out here and mingle with all the singles

Why not..................and how have you been darlin? I don't see you around much.

[BlistexLez]

The singles group is good company to keep

[TwistedQueerGrrrl]

Why not..................and how have you been darlin? I don't see you around much.

I'm doing good ......been offline more than on as of late....but don't you fear I'll be around to bug all the hot butches

[DallasLesbian]

The singles group is good company to keep

That's right by-cracky

[TwistedQueerGrrrl]

The singles group is good company to keep

yes it is......Blizzy......Ummm are you keepable? lol inquiring minds wanna know

[DallasLesbian]

I'm doing good ......been offline more than on as of late....but don't you fear I'll be around to bug all the hot butches

I've been keeping a pretty low profile myself. I got lasik done a couple of month's ago, and I've been a reading machine. But I'm taking a break from reading tonight to play around a little.

Always good to see you sweetie

[BlistexLez]

yes it is......Blizzy......Ummm are you keepable? lol inquiring minds wanna know

Survey sez....nope...not trainable either, but I can be a LOT of fun in the process

[TwistedQueerGrrrl]

Survey sez....nope...not trainable either, but I can be a LOT of fun in the process

LOL I will keep that in mind while I'm matchmaking

[BlistexLez]

LOL I will keep that in mind while I'm matchmaking

match away my dear...I enjoy meeting people.

[TwistedQueerGrrrl]

match away my dear...I enjoy meeting people.

Well I have to play matchmaker....cuz I'm too old for ya Poor Poor TQG But hey I can lust from afar

[BlistexLez]

Well I have to play matchmaker....cuz I'm too old for ya Poor Poor TQG But hey I can lust from afar

Aww...lust from up close...there is plenty of me to go around I need attention so you would be doing a good deed...helping my ego

[DallasLesbian]

Aww...lust from up close...there is plenty of me to go around I need attention so you would be doing a good deed...helping my ego

Somehow BL, I don't really think your ego needs that much help


just sayin

[Bo Dacious]

We most certainly do get Heroes here...i am well and truly hooked too , it just gets better each week.

Fingersmith was excellent , i also have the adaptation of Sarah Waters 'Tipping the Velvet' which was groundbreaking stuff for the BBC to show...and i found some of the women more attractive in that one , a few handsome butches

While i enjoy her writing & admire her as an author , i had the 'pleasure' of meeting her and found her obnoxious and arrogant.

Will let u know what i think of 'Perfume' once i've seen it.

YOUUUUUU !!!!!

Where are the bouncin' boobies ???????

[budli]

Ms Budli Darlin where ya been? I haven't seen you in forever and a day.

...i know...how shameful of me... ...i do hope u all pardon my absence....

...it's the old excuse...work, work , and yet more work taking all of my time...

..but i can play for a few hours over the next few days cos i'm not back at work til next
week...yay!

..i must add Dallas .... the rose is beautiful...thanking u kindly....

[DallasLesbian]

...i know...how shameful of me... ...i do hope u all pardon my absence....

...it's the old excuse...work, work , and yet more work taking all of my time...

..but i can play for a few hours over the next few days cos i'm not back at work til next
week...yay!

..i must add Dallas .... the rose is beautiful...thanking u kindly....

Yeah that thing called work tends to get in a lot of peoples way.

Well it's always such a pleasure to see you ma'am, and I look forward to seeing more of you in the next few days

[budli]

YOUUUUUU !!!!!

Where are the bouncin' boobies ???????

HHHHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY BO!!

...i am going to put them in my gallery just for u.....

[TwistedQueerGrrrl]

Somehow BL, I don't really think your ego needs that much help


just sayin

LOL and to think Blizzy said she was shy

[BlistexLez]

Somehow BL, I don't really think your ego needs that much help


just sayin

Tis all a show brother D...I thought u knew better by now. I put up a pretty confident act...I prefer it to showing how I feel. Plus, I am really trying to be more confident, so it's kewl when people say nice stuff

[TwistedQueerGrrrl]

Tis all a show brother D...I thought u knew better by now. I put up a pretty confident act...I prefer it to showing how I feel. Plus, I am really trying to be more confident, so it's kewl when people say nice stuff

I hear ya Bliz.....it's hard sometimes.....putting yourself out there and being confident instead of self-conscious......

Being Shy is the hardest thing I've ever had to work at overcoming. And I still haven't overcome it yet.....but I keep trying.

And you're so sweet and adorable.....we can't help but say nice things about you sweetie

[BlistexLez]

I hear ya Bliz.....it's hard sometimes.....putting yourself out there and being confident instead of self-conscious......

Being Shy is the hardest thing I've ever had to work at overcoming. And I still haven't overcome it yet.....but I keep trying.

And you're so sweet and adorable.....we can't help but say nice things about you sweetie

See...this is how we do it...we encourage each other while acknowledging our "issues" (yeah I know I have a full library).

I'm glad I will be seeing you Sunday. Social phobia is so much more fun in a group

[DallasLesbian]

LOL and to think Blizzy said she was shy

yeah shy my arse

[budli]

...BL...i think many of us tend to become that little bit brighter , that little bit funnier , that little bit more 'out-there' on-line , i'm like it too , i also 'wear the mask' at work...only my dearest closest friends see the me when i'm grumpy or sad or angry or just not feelin party-girl...

...it's a positive move to be more confident , acting it is the first step...believing it is the next...

...compliments , in whatever form , should all go into ur little belief box and when u feel ready open it up & pull them out...

[Bo Dacious]

HHHHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY BO!!

...i am going to put them in my gallery just for u.....

Yippie !!!

I you !!!

[DallasLesbian]

Tis all a show brother D...I thought u knew better by now. I put up a pretty confident act...I prefer it to showing how I feel. Plus, I am really trying to be more confident, so it's kewl when people say nice stuff

Well buddy, I think your doing an awesome job

[BlistexLez]

...BL...i think many of us tend to become that little bit brighter , that little bit funnier , that little bit more 'out-there' on-line , i'm like it too , i also 'wear the mask' at work...only my dearest closest friends see the me when i'm grumpy or sad or angry or just not feelin party-girl...

...it's a positive move to be more confident , acting it is the first step...believing it is the next...

...compliments , in whatever form , should all go into ur little belief box and when u feel ready open it up & pull them out...

EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks for sharing

Well buddy, I think your doing an awesome job

Thanks, I appreciate that. I work hard at being the person I want to be (confident, compassionate, funny), but I worry that people see something different. It's hard to know how other people percieve things ya know. Anyway, it's all a process and I try to be honest about it.

[budli]

Yippie !!!

I you !!!

....nah...you just the boobies !!

[DallasLesbian]

EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks for sharing

Thanks, I appreciate that. I work hard at being the person I want to be (confident, compassionate, funny), but I worry that people see something different. It's hard to know how other people percieve things ya know. Anyway, it's all a process and I try to be honest about it.

Whatever you are doing seems to be working, because I seriously had no clue. Keep up the good work!!!

[budli]

Whatever you are doing seems to be working, because I seriously had no clue. Keep up the good work!!!

...BL ....take encouragement from what Dallas has just said and keep at it...i know it can be exhausting , the effort of staying positive , but keep that smile going and before u know it it will come naturally....

[DallasLesbian]

...BL ....take encouragement from what Dallas has just said and keep at it...i know it can be exhausting , the effort of staying positive , but keep that smile going and before u know it it will come naturally....

This is true. There is an old saying in AA....Fake it till ya make it.........and this is the stuff they are talking about..........and yes it really does work.

[budli]

...i do hope this is all we have to 'fake'! .... i know it's been a while but i'm guessing it will all 'come' back to me....

...i need to lighten the tone a little...wrinkles are sooo not a good look...

[BlistexLez]

...i need to lighten the tone a little...wrinkles are sooo not a good look...

Yippee...I can go back to perving...THAT ain't fake

[Bo Dacious]

....nah...you just the boobies !!

Actually it's all three of ya I love.

[TwistedQueerGrrrl]

I've been keeping a pretty low profile myself. I got lasik done a couple of month's ago, and I've been a reading machine. But I'm taking a break from reading tonight to play around a little.

Always good to see you sweetie

Wow so you like the Lasik? I've thought about it.....what blessing it would be not to have to hunt for my glasses to see.

But it scares me as well......hmmmmm I'll have to check into it some more.

Always a pleasure to see you DL