As a stone femme who has MS and other conditions my life has changed because my level of ability to do things has altered. Things that were once simple have now become more difficult, requiring modifications. Acitivities that once brought me much pleasure have had to be abandoned or severly curtailed because of my health issues.
The changes on my brain have made me more emotional, more irritable, less patient. I am quick to anger and quick to cry. I forget things easily. Sometimes I have to search for the right word I want when words used to roll off my tongue without conscious thought. I become frustrated easily. It affects me socially as well.
As a result of my health issues my self esteem level is sometimes VERY low. I find myself feeling less than feminine, very un-femme-ly, for lack of a better word. I can't wear high heels any more because my balance is horrible. I sometimes wonder what I have to offer my partner, being that my condition is a chronic lifetime one that will not suddenly get better. It may only stay the same or worsen with time.
I suspect I am not the only one who feels these things. I would like to hear from others who have physical disabilities and feel these things. What is your story? Do you feel less attractive, less "femme/butch/insert your choice of gender term here"? How do you cope? What are your experiences? How do you keep truckin' on?
I would ask a few things:
1) Be respectful at all times. Not everyone here will share your POV and/or politics. That's OK. We are all different.
2) If you cannot be supportive of those who participate, please go elsewhere.
3) Not everyone who may post here will ID the same way. Someone may ID as "lesbian", another as FTM. That's okay. Quibbling about someone's gender ID, etc., is NOT what this thread is being started for. Please keep that kind of stuff out of the thread.
4) Not everyone will feel perky at all times. That is OK too. Judicious ranting about your condition is allowed.
5) This is a place of support, a place where folks can share all kinds of deep things, ask questions, etc. It is hard for some to share, so let's keep it positive and encouraging! If you have a personal issue with someone, handle it in a PM. Do not attack someone in a post to the thread. It will not be tolerated.
I believe in being up front, so:
NO DRAMA. NO FLAMING. PERIOD.
Let's get the ball rolling!