I think a good butch quality is rarely appreciated by femmes. When was the last time you hear a femme saying "I want a butch who takes it like a man?" Or how about, "I want a butch who can create the most wonderful gadgets." Never. Femmes always want non-butch qualities like "being romantic" or "treat femme like princess". No wonder phony butches gets to break hearts and good ones are quietly spending time alone in the shop. I mean, honestly, who wants to "romance a femme" when he could spend the time and energy creating interesting things? Honestly. Wanting a butch without ever wanting any butch qualities doesn't make much sense to me. You wouldn't judge a hammer by its color and expect good quality, would you? Why then, would you pick a butch using feminine standards?
Just wondering. Not that there's anything wrong with femme's way of seeing butches, but I'm just saying it's rather strange. After the millionth time being told that a desirable butch should be like a day-time-TV male star, I must ask.
Perhaps we butches should all model after Fabio. That would keep femmes happy. But then we would be miserable.