Is it me...or is it a butch thing....

[jeannienrizz2004]

Hey gotta ask you butches...

My butch daddie and I have been together for 3+ years...and she doesnt like to perform oral sex ....on me...or according to her..anyone in the past....she loves recieving and has on occasion gone to town....but when I ask her about it she says its cuz she enjoys making me orgasm other ways...like with her hand or fist or anything else.....she says its not me....and to not take it personal....but i cant help it...i enjoy oral sex...and i have told her this....but she avoids the subject....is there anyway i can approach it better...or should i just let it be...our sex life is great...but i just want to be sure its not me that is making her not want to do it...

is she the only butch like this?....please please let me know...:O)

Jeannie-the flirty femme

[justbutch]

Originally posted by jeannienrizz2004
Hey gotta ask you butches...

My butch daddie and I have been together for 3+ years...and she doesnt like to perform oral sex ....on me...or according to her..anyone in the past....she loves recieving and has on occasion gone to town....but when I ask her about it she says its cuz she enjoys making me orgasm other ways...like with her hand or fist or anything else.....she says its not me....and to not take it personal....but i cant help it...i enjoy oral sex...and i have told her this....but she avoids the subject....is there anyway i can approach it better...or should i just let it be...our sex life is great...but i just want to be sure its not me that is making her not want to do it...

is she the only butch like this?....please please let me know...:O)

Jeannie-the flirty femme

I'm sorry Jeannie, but I can't see how you can say your sex life is great when you're not being totally satisfied in all ways you enjoy. There is a give and take in relationships; and I just don't understand it when someone puts their needs on hold either for fear of 'losing out' in other areas, being alone, or some other reason. I really think you should stand back and take a good look at your relationship. Please, don't think I'm saying to break up or anything; but you really need to stand your ground and not allow you Butch to avoid the subject of totally satisfying hys womyn. There has to be a reason, noone here can really say that it's you or hym unless thyy know you two that well. But to let it be? No way. You have every right to see to it that your needs are satisfied. You say your Butch enjoys making you orgasm in other ways? Well, who is that totally satisfying, you or hym? It appears hys more consumed with hys enjoyment than yours; it just so happens what hys doing is bringing you to orgasm. But if you like oral sex, there should be no hesitation from your Butch in seeing that you are satisfied to the fullest. I'm not saying hy doesn't love you; but if hy loves you as much as hys told you (I'm assuming hy has told you), then either hy needs to start getting busy downstairs or at least give you the respect you deserve by not avoiding the subject but communicating why hys not into it. Who knows? It could be hy doesn't know how, it could be other reasons (I won't elaborate on everything I'm thinking), but you need to tell hym to start talking before you start feeling the need to seek other oral options.


Good luck to you and yours,



Just the Butchermyn

[jeannienrizz2004]

please i would like for you to elaborate!....granted it does sound as though im not being satisfied..but in all honesty i am..i love being with her and our sex really is great..she knows how to fuck me all the right ways...*grins*....and when she does make me orgasm..its a screaming good time...

im not angry at her for it..i just dont know what it is that she doesnt enjoy about it..makes me think even more that its me...but she is the first butch i have been with that was like this...

you may be right...


maybe she thinks she cant do it right...i plan on approaching it again tonight....and im sure she will distract me by touching me...lol...

thanks for the input....

[jeannienrizz2004]

please i would like for you to elaborate!....granted it does sound as though im not being satisfied..but in all honesty i am..i love being with her and our sex really is great..she knows how to fuck me all the right ways...*grins*....and when she does make me orgasm..its a screaming good time...

im not angry at her for it..i just dont know what it is that she doesnt enjoy about it..makes me think even more that its me...but she is the first butch i have been with that was like this...

you may be right...


maybe she thinks she cant do it right...i plan on approaching it again tonight....and im sure she will distract me by touching me...lol...

thanks for the input....

[ufeelmeyet]

Jeannie,

I don't think it's a "butch" thing per se, I just think it's a particular person thing :-)

I'm butch and I gotta tell ya I love some pussy (of course you won't catch my tongue in just ANYONE'S pussy) but I don't have any problems whatsoever in performing oral sex on a femme.

As a matter of fact, I get in moods, hmmm I'd say like once a month or so when I'm in a "MAJOR, MAJOR, MAJOR" eating pussy mood, moreso than normal.

So anyway....like I said it's just your butches preference, not everyones. If it bothers you, you really have to talk about it. Even if your butch doesn't want to talk about it, you have to find a way to make her. When something concerns you, you can't just let it be or come here and get our opinions and than NOT talk to the one person that DOES MATTER.

Good luck to you.

CAREY

[justbutch]

Originally posted by jeannienrizz2004
please i would like for you to elaborate!....granted it does sound as though im not being satisfied..but in all honesty i am..i love being with her and our sex really is great..she knows how to fuck me all the right ways...*grins*....and when she does make me orgasm..its a screaming good time...

im not angry at her for it..i just dont know what it is that she doesnt enjoy about it..makes me think even more that its me...but she is the first butch i have been with that was like this...

you may be right...


maybe she thinks she cant do it right...i plan on approaching it again tonight....and im sure she will distract me by touching me...lol...

thanks for the input....

[justbutch]

Originally posted by jeannienrizz2004
please i would like for you to elaborate!....granted it does sound as though im not being satisfied..but in all honesty i am..i love being with her and our sex really is great..she knows how to fuck me all the right ways...*grins*....and when she does make me orgasm..its a screaming good time...

im not angry at her for it..i just dont know what it is that she doesnt enjoy about it..makes me think even more that its me...but she is the first butch i have been with that was like this...

you may be right...


maybe she thinks she cant do it right...i plan on approaching it again tonight....and im sure she will distract me by touching me...lol...

thanks for the input....

First off, if you deeply feel within yourself that you are being satisfied to the fullest, then you really aren't wondering why hy doesn't go downstairs; because it really doesn't matter. You say, "she knows how to fuck me in all the right ways". While fucking is great, fucking is by no means everything. And that may just be why you're not getting everything, I don't know. You may want to take the approach of telling hym to show his desire; to make LOVE to your BODY. You may want to take the approach of telling hym you want to show hym 'other' ways to make LOVE to your BODY. Just don't make hym feel inadequate. Be gentle; stroke hys ego a bit, guide hym in different areas all over your body (making sure you don't give in until...lol), and then planting hys face smack dab. lol If hy still doesn't produce a tongue but a finger instead, tell hym to put it away for now and to give you 'a litle something different' this time. lol If hy runs off to the toy box, pull hym back and say, "Uh-Uhnn". lol Hy should then know what you want, proceed to do hys thing or at least try hys best. Just don't laugh and start giving in to hys distractions. You'll know if hy doesn't know how; at least I'd think you'd know (hey, I don't know if you'd know or not). And if hy doesn't know how, then at least you can teach hym, and both of you can have fun sex in the process. Another approach you might try is the 'honey' approach. lol Put a few drops in different places on your body and tell hym to connect the dots with hys tongue, and make sure every drop is gone. lol This is probably the easiest approach and unless hys reading this thread, hy'll fall for. Just make sure you remember to put most of it 'there'; where you want hym to have to spend the most time. lol

And if none of those work; just handcuff hys ass to the chair and MAKE hym give you a reason why not. lol


Again, good luck..... lol


Just the Butchermyn

[jeannienrizz2004]

well i have started talking to her..she is at work..

i told her we had a date later with honey...she suggested chocolate..i agreed...

ill keep you posted!

[justbutch]

Originally posted by jeannienrizz2004
well i have started talking to her..she is at work..

i told her we had a date later with honey...she suggested chocolate..i agreed...

ill keep you posted!

Excellent!!

I don't need details; but I would like to know if it worked! lol


Just the Butchermyn

[TexasStone]

Originally posted by jeannienrizz2004
Hey gotta ask you butches...

My butch daddie and I have been together for 3+ years...and she doesnt like to perform oral sex ....on me...or according to her..anyone in the past....she loves recieving and has on occasion gone to town....but when I ask her about it she says its cuz she enjoys making me orgasm other ways...like with her hand or fist or anything else.....she says its not me....and to not take it personal....but i cant help it...i enjoy oral sex...and i have told her this....but she avoids the subject....is there anyway i can approach it better...or should i just let it be...our sex life is great...but i just want to be sure its not me that is making her not want to do it...

is she the only butch like this?....please please let me know...:O)

Jeannie-the flirty femme

i can't really say if she's the only butch that doesn't like oral, most likely she's not the only one. i don't know any, but that doesn't mean they're not out there. personally i LOVE it, but that's beside the point. you have to ask yourself if this is something that is REALLY important to you. everyone knows there's more to a relationship than just sex, but i am of the belief that as a lover and a partner it's my place to make sure my lover is satisfied and she gets what she wants and needs, just as it is her place to do the same for me. if you feel like recieving oral is something you REALLY really want more of you really need to communicate it to her. you know your butch better than i do... but if it was me and my woman (when i have one) sat me down, may be sat on my lap, and whispered really sexy stuff in my ear really sexy like... or somethin like that... whooooo nelly nothin gets me faster than that! big key here tho is communicate, in some way or another, to her that you really really like it... may be work out some sort of compromise where you don't get it all the time, may be only when you've been a really really good babygirl? or somethin... *shrugs* hope this helps!

Texxyboi

[ang101_us]

i believe when you are in a relationship...it should always be 50/50...its all about give and take...if you enjoy oral sex then your gf should make an effort to please you orally...im butch...and i love nothing more but to orally please my gf...hell...i can just stay between her legs and not move....but thats not the case...i give what she wants and if i dont...i expect her to tell me so next time around i will do what it takes to make sure i cover all of my bases...its all about communication...

have u tried to ask her if she is turned off by the thought of going down on u?...the reason im asking is because not everyone likes to give...some think its not appropriate...or are disgusted by that particular sexual act...ull never know unless u ask...

[TexasStone]

Originally posted by justbutch
First off, if you deeply feel within yourself that you are being satisfied to the fullest, then you really aren't wondering why hy doesn't go downstairs; because it really doesn't matter. You say, "she knows how to fuck me in all the right ways". While fucking is great, fucking is by no means everything. And that may just be why you're not getting everything, I don't know. You may want to take the approach of telling hym to show his desire; to make LOVE to your BODY. You may want to take the approach of telling hym you want to show hym 'other' ways to make LOVE to your BODY. Just don't make hym feel inadequate. Be gentle; stroke hys ego a bit, guide hym in different areas all over your body (making sure you don't give in until...lol), and then planting hys face smack dab. lol If hy still doesn't produce a tongue but a finger instead, tell hym to put it away for now and to give you 'a litle something different' this time. lol If hy runs off to the toy box, pull hym back and say, "Uh-Uhnn". lol Hy should then know what you want, proceed to do hys thing or at least try hys best. Just don't laugh and start giving in to hys distractions. You'll know if hy doesn't know how; at least I'd think you'd know (hey, I don't know if you'd know or not). And if hy doesn't know how, then at least you can teach hym, and both of you can have fun sex in the process. Another approach you might try is the 'honey' approach. lol Put a few drops in different places on your body and tell hym to connect the dots with hys tongue, and make sure every drop is gone. lol This is probably the easiest approach and unless hys reading this thread, hy'll fall for. Just make sure you remember to put most of it 'there'; where you want hym to have to spend the most time. lol

And if none of those work; just handcuff hys ass to the chair and MAKE hym give you a reason why not. lol


Again, good luck..... lol


Just the Butchermyn

or you could tie em down to the bed and straddle... ummm yeah... may be this belongs in another thread lol

Texxyboi

[Meghanna]

I am a femme that loves oral sex... and I communicate the fact that it makes my toes curl.... Once upon a time I was with a Butch that didn't like to go down... and yeah we had great sex in other ways but I was really not liking the lack of a lil' head. I went down on them a bunch of times, and one time it was reciprocated. I think its just a personal preference. Maybe its tied into their gender identity, if they are very connected to penetration being the basis of good sex, then maybe they view oral sex as not being butch enough. (This is all just my opinion, nothing more).

[jeannienrizz2004]

hey ladies..thanks for all the input and advice...

the chocolate syrup worked!...and when she asked me why such an interesting idea..i decided to just ask

she is sort of along the lines mentioned in this thread....she likes to penetrate me...with her fingers,hand,strap on...but also, even though she doesnt do it often..enjoys giving me oral

i asked her if it was me....if i was doing sometihing wrong..etc....

and she came out and told me that she feels like she isnt good at it...cuz with her ex..she didnt do it much either....

so we had a lesson...in oral...with chocolate syrup....and now that we fully relaxed and talked about it and enjoyed it...its all good

then we did it without the syrup..lol

baby steps..!!

[BaltoButch]

I can't speak for your butch, but I love giving oral... its a connection intimacy thing for Me... really can't live without it... but I have been with a femme that does not enjoy oral, and that one thing was missing from otherwise great sex... its a personal thing, but for Me, I was never completely satisfied when I couldn't go down on her

lol... *blushing like a champ over here*

[justbutch]

Originally posted by jeannienrizz2004
hey ladies..thanks for all the input and advice...

the chocolate syrup worked!...and when she asked me why such an interesting idea..i decided to just ask

she is sort of along the lines mentioned in this thread....she likes to penetrate me...with her fingers,hand,strap on...but also, even though she doesnt do it often..enjoys giving me oral

i asked her if it was me....if i was doing sometihing wrong..etc....

and she came out and told me that she feels like she isnt good at it...cuz with her ex..she didnt do it much either....

so we had a lesson...in oral...with chocolate syrup....and now that we fully relaxed and talked about it and enjoyed it...its all good

then we did it without the syrup..lol

baby steps..!!

Well.....dammmit!! Aaaaalrighty then!

I'm happy to know the syrup worked, glad to have helped.

Before long, my bro's gonna be a pro, then you'll ask, "How do I keep my Butch off me?" lol





Just the Butchermyn

[chocolatefemme]

I can't say that I relate to what you are going thru.
I can say that the subject should not be avoided and you
should not allow it to be pushed aside.

There is obviously something amist if your Butch does not
want to have oral sex with you.

Shit, I can't stop mine from performing oral sex. There are
times when there is some much oral loving that I can't even
close my legs without shivering.

Hang in there and try to introduce the oral part of your love
making gently and talk to hyr about it. Communication is the
key to make this thing happen.

Good luck to you and let me know how it works out.

Chocolatefemme

[SnugglyGirl007]

Originally posted by jeannienrizz2004
Hey gotta ask you butches...

My butch daddie and I have been together for 3+ years...and she doesnt like to perform oral sex ....on me...or according to her..anyone in the past....she loves recieving and has on occasion gone to town....but when I ask her about it she says its cuz she enjoys making me orgasm other ways...like with her hand or fist or anything else.....she says its not me....and to not take it personal....but i cant help it...i enjoy oral sex...and i have told her this....but she avoids the subject....is there anyway i can approach it better...or should i just let it be...our sex life is great...but i just want to be sure its not me that is making her not want to do it...

is she the only butch like this?....please please let me know...:O)

Jeannie-the flirty femme

OMG - I would so die!

[SnugglyGirl007]

Originally posted by jeannienrizz2004
well i have started talking to her..she is at work..

i told her we had a date later with honey...she suggested chocolate..i agreed...

ill keep you posted!

This reminds me of the fact that I must experience the 9 1/2 weeks - kitchen floor, food scene, before I die.........damn that's hot.