Wow...the Orphanage...how cute and kind of sad lol...but I guess it applies to me! LOL . All I know right now is that it's going to take one special Daddy to tame this wild femme's heart! LOL
Wow...the Orphanage...how cute and kind of sad lol...but I guess it applies to me! LOL . All I know right now is that it's going to take one special Daddy to tame this wild femme's heart! LOL
Yum thanks....lol
Oh Yeah! Just saw Melissa Ferrick a couple of months ago in Tampa...for the first time. She was great! Love the little happy face behind the wheel by the waylol
Originally Posted by sweet_goldie_grrl
I miss hearing my Daddy's voice . . .
i sowwy goldie...hope you has heard it by now {{{goldie}}}
omgomg a new girl! WELCOME tell me all about you!
Stopping in to say hello to all the babygirls!
*shyly peaking in* Hi Daddies and girls....i'm back and still don't have a Daddy *pouts* i missed you all
cuddlyfemme
"People are like stained glass windows; they sparkle & shine when the sun is out, but when darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within!"e. kubler-ross
hello Mr. Fireclown!!!
welcome back Cuddly!!!! i've missed you!
Thanks for the welcome back!! I've missed you too
"People are like stained glass windows; they sparkle & shine when the sun is out, but when darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within!"e. kubler-ross
i am an orphan again....Hy met someone and is in love with hyr. I am broken-hearted.....i was hoping that in time Hy and I could make a go of it....but I see that I was wrong. I just wish Hy had had the decency to tell me instead of me asking Hym b/c of a comment I had seen on fb.
I'm done with relationships.......i want to be a hermit.
I'm so sorry you were hurt that way. I totally understand what you mean when you say you want to be a hermit but i know for a fact that there are some good Daddy's out there so please don't give up....take a "break" maybe but don't give up.
"People are like stained glass windows; they sparkle & shine when the sun is out, but when darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within!"e. kubler-ross
thanks for the kind words cuddlyfemme. it just seems like everytime i try, i'm the one who gets hurt. i foolishly thought that with hys busy schedule hy wouldn't really have time to go out with anyone and that hy and i could date eachother. that in a way, hy would wait for me to get my own shit together. to think i was only gonna have hym wait only another month. i really had hoped that hy cared for me as i did for hym. i guess not. i won't be calling hym Daddy anymore. i have no Daddy.
Mybelongs to my Daddy!!
Happily loved, wanted, and owned by Blue_Vegan_Daddy-O, my one true Daddy!!
me too i wanna be a hermit! let's be hermits together and completely ignore miss piggy!
Is this where babygirls go when their daddy is too busy for them?
(sniff)
sure, it can be!!! we've missed you! come play! what's going on? the doggies get all the attentions?
Bouncing in for an update....
Hi Everyone! I've been away for ever... yes puppies have been getting lots of attention, we have two litters right now. I love having puppies around.
Things are going ok. I feel like I'm a bit alone sometimes, not sure how many of you recall but my husband and I met here on Butch-Femme about 8 years ago. At the time he was a out loud butch. We've gone through many changes and now he's FTM stealth. We're living in NC, raising dogs and dealing with the heat!
I just saw this thread and thought... that's how I feel sometimes.... Like maybe my daddy put me off in the orphanage.
Very very
How can I get him to come back? He's here in body, but the touch is gone. TMI?
Any other babygirls have some advice for me... Heck, I'd be willing to listen to Daddies too (giggle)
((((HUG))) Missed you girls too... I've been very lonely lately. No one to play with. I hate being a grown up sometimes! (pout)
Hi Everyone! I've been away for ever... yes puppies have been getting lots of attention, we have two litters right now. I love having puppies around.
Things are going ok. I feel like I'm a bit alone sometimes, not sure how many of you recall but my husband and I met here on Butch-Femme about 8 years ago. At the time he was a out loud butch. We've gone through many changes and now he's FTM stealth. We're living in NC, raising dogs and dealing with the heat!
I just saw this thread and thought... that's how I feel sometimes.... Like maybe my daddy put me off in the orphanage.
Very very
How can I get him to come back? He's here in body, but the touch is gone. TMI?
Any other babygirls have some advice for me... Heck, I'd be willing to listen to Daddies too (giggle)ooooooh dat's a tuff one! i has been where you are AND where He is, tho, and in my experience the best thing to do is.....send a PM
Sounds like a plan!
So.... (plops down on pillow to chat...)
How has everyone been lately? I've been away for a while. I'm going to try to be back more often...
How is everyone?
Awwww.....Renee.....you poor thing!! I'm sorry to hear that your Daddy doesn't have time for you. I hope you get it all worked out with your Daddy. *hugs*
You live in NC? Me too!
My
Happily loved, wanted, and owned by Blue_Vegan_Daddy-O, my one true Daddy!!
Yeah, I'm in NC. I was born and raised here but moved away in my twenties only to return now. I lived in Norfolk VA and in San Diego CA. I think my favorite place in the whole world is San Deigo. I never really went to the beach and didn't really shop but the weather. Gosh... all but the June Gloom, I was in heaven.
We moved to NC about 4 years ago. I'm just outside Raleigh.
So, yeah right now apparently I'm on an upward scale in my neediness and he's not. So you know how it goes. (POUT)
I'm in North Durham!! I'm somewhat familiar with Raleigh. My brother lives in San Diego, and it was awesome there! I used to live in Salinas, the country area.
There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with needing your Daddy! I know how that feels and it really does suck when Daddy isn't available for babygirl. Have you talked to your Daddy about how you feel? Maybe if he knows, he may make changes to accomadate you.
My
Happily loved, wanted, and owned by Blue_Vegan_Daddy-O, my one true Daddy!!
Big Hugs Renee. I hope things get better for you. i wish i had a Daddy. Sometimes i feel like a big part of me is missing because i don't have a Daddy
If my heart is broken, I have to be the one to mend it no matter how long it takes, for even the touch of your hand can not put it back together properly, it can only offer me a temporary fix, and one moment of peace and sanity.KOTC SoulSearcher
i first came to the Orphanage and the Daddy-girl mailing list in early 2007...since then i have had two Daddy-girl relationships, each a little over a year long, one horrible and one just unsuccessful...i feel like i have learned a lot about the dynamic and my needs and my place on the spectrum, and i am sure-er than ever that this is what i want! Now i just need to find the right Daddy
Good afternoon to the Orphanage,
Wow, it sure does feel like a long time since I've been here and to the site. Been busy with life, we all know how that is, and also I've been recovering at home since I just had surgery a little over three weeks ago (gallbladder, not fun). I hadn't been here toin a long time and thought that I would take the time to come and visit here, see how everyone is doing. I am glad to see all of the girls here having a good time, though I do think that more of the Daddies need to come in and say hi ~ thats what I plan on doing now since I have more time to do so.
I'm very sorry to hear that some of the girls are having a hard time with their Daddies, or that the Daddies aren't stepping up to the plate. I do hope that things improve for each of the girls here and that the day is finding each of you well
Braedon
Be right back - I am going to go find Myself, if I leave before I get back make sure to tell Me
don't you just wish that you could stay a kid forreverrr!
but then again that is not the way of the world -pout-
so instead................... lets say screw dem!!! and draw instead of being grow'd up!
-steals the crayons and runs and hides in her hiding spot and draws, ignoring the calls from work, and the need to get her homeworkdone cuz she's tired of being responsible -
"Talent is a flame. Genius is a fire." - Bern Williams"Power corrupts. Knowledge is power. Study hard. Be evil" -unknown
Wow, This is truly and utterly amazing, and... it sounds like it came from my very own heart and soul. Very well put. I too... have had to be the one,but all the while crying out for my Daddy. Where ever and Who ever Hy is.
Thank You so much for this. It helps me... in so many ways. Thank You again.
[QUOTE=PapaChris;461458]Thanks to everyone who posted in ways and manners that I could not. Eve, you were able to isolate the exact parts of ace's post that pissed me off the most, so I won't revisit that.
What's very problematic with communication online, are oftentimes, what is left *unsaid*, and what is implied, whether or not we truly meant for the kinds of interpretations to occur. People make judgement calls, maybe not exactly mean what they said, or maybe they do but without further explanation.
"sound bytes" leave a lot to be desired sometimes.
That said, my experiences here were initially *really* hostile. The chat room was filled with negativity and rudeness and your assortment of "trouble makers".and hey, I can say that, I'm one myself. One at times must learn to develop thicker skin. I personally did.
When I first entered the chat room, some 3 years ago now, "PapaChris" was not always a nick that was welcomed. "Are you a REAL Daddy", "Do you like babygrrls" ... just... the snarkiness was a little over the top.
I'm almost understanding of why that is now. LOL. Thankfully, as an established member here, I don't quite get that kind of reaction anymore. Even if I did, I stand on my own, tyvm.
Using "REAL" to distinguish what one is looking for, is in my very humble *opinion* is problematic. I mean consider this:
"I'm looking for a REAL femme"
"I want a REAL babygrrl"
"I can never find a REAL daddy, or a REAL butch"
oy... the list is endless. And mark my words, if anyone ever uses "REAL" on me, in a positive or negative way, I'm going to call them on their bullshit. For true, I am.
How one is a Daddy is definitely a *personal preference*. Some of us play in the bedroom, others play outside the bedroom, and some play 24/7. I happen to be one that does a mix of 24/7 - bedroom play who HUGE caveats in place. What is needed ANYtime I've engaged in Daddy/grrl play, be it in real time or online, is communication between myself and what the other is looking for.
If ace (for example) has found his version of a Daddy/babygrrl relationship, more power to hym. But did his words create righteous indignation from the rest of us? Yep. (btw, where is hy since the original post?) I'd be intrigued to see if hy's willing to make any clarifications.
Being a Daddy (sigh) has been personally challenging for me as I struggled with the dynamic in the past and present. I've had to personally put my misogyny in check BIG time. As some one who has past and present anger management issues, I've had to put potentially emotional abusive behaviour in CHECK. Although I aspire to get more into the leather aspect of BDSM for example, I am slow to do that because I want to make sure I'm doing it in the right frame of mind, and in a consensual manner.
I do wonder: do other daddies do that same? What kind of self-monitoring do you do? How often do you engage in emotional aftercare with your partner/play partner?
I agree that *for me* Daddy/babygrrl is an intense dynamic. I will NOT go as far as saying, it's the deepest one there is. I can tell you, that being a Daddy to a grrl has been the deepest thing for me. Letting go is not easy. And knowing the boundaries in a relationship is not easy, and I'm going to BET that I'm not the only one to have this problem.
Morpheus said:
Hardly bud, hardly.
One of the greatest things since leaving my 4 year relationship with a babygrrl (note: that's only ONE aspect of my ex, she is more than a babygrrl 24/7) was the fact that I got tired of being a Daddy 100% of the time. Actually... let me rephrase that. I've since accepted that I *can* be a daddy 24/7 and still be volunerable, be able to not be "strong" or not always "nuturing".
In fact, I believe my maturity into being a strong daddy could only occur *after* I learned to be vulnerable, and learned to accept the nurturing from someone else, and from someone who was willing to give it to me so freely.
Just reading some of the posts here... I do get a little upset when I read from self-identifying babygrrls that they are disappointed and dismayed by the daddies that they found. Granted, I *do* get the whole concept of finding the wrong person, and maybe feeling like they changed after a while. It happens. You want a different type of Daddy.
But, if you pout and whine about finding "authentic" daddies, "real" daddies, 24/7 daddies, in such a public manner... careful, you're more likely to find the very posers that you're trying to avoid.
that's my 2 bucks into this pile.
PapaChris[/QUOTE
Thanks PapaChris, This too is very insightful. It helps someone like me who finally can put a finger on what she wants and needs not just to get, but to give as well. The feelings have always been there, to want/need a Daddy, but never knew the the correct lingo or even if it was "ok" to feel that way.i apologize for my ramblings, Thanks again.
Aww SyrQ, Heartfelt and awesome. Here's hoping You will find either the connection with her again, or a new lilgirl that will be there to wipe away those tears.(ps) if You haven't already since this post was kinda old and i am still a newbie to BF )I completely agree with all that you have written. Nicely put. On behalf of all other Daddi's---thank you!
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I for one am freshly out of a Daddi/lil grrl relationship, and am finding it hard to take these feelings anywhere, but to my pillow at night.
Where or who does a Daddi go too to cry and talk to about the emotions we feel at times like these?
It is a GREAT loss, and I am finding it hard to sort through these feelings. Truthfully, I am a bit overwhelmed with all the darkness I am facing and walking through alone.
More than anything, I think I miss hearing those words---"I love you too Daddi."
So I ask you all---where do Daddi's go to cry?
Former Daddi to the most beloved lil grrl, in the history of beloved lil grrl's in the world. (Did I mention how incredibly amazing she is?)
This thread has truly been an eye opener to me. I never knew about the Daddy/babygurl scene. I have heard of it off and on for years but i was always kinda turned off for a few reasons.. main one is because I never had a good relationship with my real biological Dad and could never understand why i would want to refer to someone willing to someone who brought me such pain and agony as a kid.
Another reason why is well, because the only "Daddys" i ever knew.. were.. born male. so that was another turn off to me.
Please do not think that i am putting anyone down or saying anything negative about anyone.. cause that is NOT my heart.
The more i read about this, the more intrigued i am.
I give kudos to the Daddys here that show genuine feelings. That are NOT afraid to admit to crying or needing to be held at times. You give Daddys a good name and it makes orphans like me i guess You can say feel optomistic and hopeful in finding a Daddy that would want them(me).
The babygurls/lilgurls/lilgirls or whatever(sorry still learning and have only gotten to page 3 out of 190 of this thread so far)
anyways Kudos for you too. Thank you for showing a new babygurl what she should know on not only how to find a Daddy BUT i think at least more importantly.... how to be a babygurl Daddy would want.
ok enough of the ramblings of a sicky, lonely new babygurl who hasnt had any sleep yet after spending 12 of a 24hr day in the ER.
Take care A/all... xoxxoxoxoxxoxo
OHHHHHHHH ang!!
Thank you soooooo much for this thread! awesome AWESOME idea you had hun.
ok, i'm gone. for real.. at least for now. lol yes i am a nut.
**smiles @ kassy** I think that being grown up can be so overrated at times, so have fun and color to your heart's content
(((((((((((((deb)))))))))))))))))))[COLOR=Indigo]This thread has truly been an eye opener to me. I never knew about the Daddy/babygurl scene. I have heard of it off and on for years but i was always kinda turned off for a few reasons.. main one is because I never had a good relationship with my real biological Dad and could never understand why i would want to refer to someone willing to someone who brought me such pain and agony as a kid.
Another reason why is well, because the only "Daddys" i ever knew.. were.. born male. so that was another turn off to me.
Please do not think that i am putting anyone down or saying anything negative about anyone.. cause that is NOT my heart.
The more i read about this, the more intrigued i am.
I give kudos to the Daddys here that show genuine feelings. That are NOT afraid to admit to crying or needing to be held at times. You give Daddys a good name and it makes orphans like me i guess You can say feel optomistic and hopeful in finding a Daddy that would want them(me).
The babygurls/lilgurls/lilgirls or whatever(sorry still learning and have only gotten to page 3 out of 190 of this thread so far)
anyways Kudos for you too. Thank you for showing a new babygurl what she should know on not only how to find a Daddy BUT i think at least more importantly.... how to be a babygurl Daddy would want.
ok enough of the ramblings of a sicky, lonely new babygurl who hasnt had any sleep yet after spending 12 of a 24hr day in the ER.
Take care A/all... xoxxoxoxoxxoxo
This is a very good thread to read to learn more about the Daddy/girl lifestyle, plus you can easily connect with other girls (and us Daddy's) to learn more from our personal experiences. Hopefully you will learn alot from reading, but if you have any questions don't hesitate to ask ~ we will all do our best to respond as best as we can
Are you ok after being in the ER? Hopefully you got some sleep and are resting well
Be right back - I am going to go find Myself, if I leave before I get back make sure to tell Me
**smiles @ kassy** I think that being grown up can be so overrated at times, so have fun and color to your heart's content
(((((((((((((deb)))))))))))))))))))
This is a very good thread to read to learn more about the Daddy/girl lifestyle, plus you can easily connect with other girls (and us Daddy's) to learn more from our personal experiences. Hopefully you will learn alot from reading, but if you have any questions don't hesitate to ask ~ we will all do our best to respond as best as we can
Are you ok after being in the ER? Hopefully you got some sleep and are resting well
Aww, Thank You so much ! i really appreciate Your kindness.
About the Er, yeah... i have severe bronchitis on top of my asthma and sinus infection..
I had to get a total of 5 breathing treatments and a shot of steroids to help open my airways.. was kinda bad, feeling alittle better now.
Thank You for Your concern, and trust me please, i will be doing alot of research and asking questions for sure!
Good evening deb,
I'm so sorry to hear about the trip you took to the ER; I had a friend who went into the hospital one time for that exact same thing about two years ago, he had to be put in ICU for five days because his lungs had completely collapsed. He's fine now thank goodness, but I'm very glad that you did not have to go through anything like that and I do hope that your doing ok after getting those breathing treatments. If you have any questions or just want to chat more, your more than welcome to send me a message ~ hope your having a wonderful Monday
Be right back - I am going to go find Myself, if I leave before I get back make sure to tell Me
*smiles sweetly as she peeks up at Hys Handsome face* thank You very much. i am grateful that i did not get that bad, and i am doing alot better. No more breathing in glass and no more elephant sitting on my chest. Yay!.Good evening deb,
I'm so sorry to hear about the trip you took to the ER; I had a friend who went into the hospital one time for that exact same thing about two years ago, he had to be put in ICU for five days because his lungs had completely collapsed. He's fine now thank goodness, but I'm very glad that you did not have to go through anything like that and I do hope that your doing ok after getting those breathing treatments. If you have any questions or just want to chat more, your more than welcome to send me a message ~ hope your having a wonderful Monday
So sorry to hear about Your friend but Yay that He is better now.
Thank You for allowing me to glean from You, for i am sure that will be happening alot. *giggles*
she wishes You well,
debbie.
**smiles @ you** I'm sure that sweet smile has broken a few hearts for sure *wink*
I'm so glad to hear that your not having any more problems breathing, thats wonderful
I love girl giggles, and I'm sure yours are very sweet ~ I hope that I can bring them out of you more often
Look forward to seeing you in the Orphanage again soon hun,
Braedon
Be right back - I am going to go find Myself, if I leave before I get back make sure to tell Me
* The apple of her cheeks turn a bright crimson at His wink and she giggles even more*, Thank You for the kindness You show me. It feels , hmm, really good.**smiles @ you** I'm sure that sweet smile has broken a few hearts for sure *wink*
I'm so glad to hear that your not having any more problems breathing, thats wonderful
I love girl giggles, and I'm sure yours are very sweet ~ I hope that I can bring them out of you more often
Look forward to seeing you in the Orphanage again soon hun,
Braedon
i love to smile and laugh, and yes, sighs, i giggle alllllllll the time. lol. cant help it. and , yes, i blush too dang easy too, but it's all good i guess.
I am doing better health-wise, however i have noticed i am getting asthma attacks easier right now, but i am thinking it is due to still trying to recover fully. am having a bit of a harder time right now cause i went to karaoke tonight and the bar was filled with cigarette smoke. i did take my inhaler with me and tried to stand down wind. lol.
i hope all is well with You, and i am looking forward to talking with You again, hopefully soon.
First of all i want to say hello and i hope E/everyone is doing good since i have not really been in here much lately. Second of all i saw some recent post where someone quoted some older post made by SyrQ and BaltoButch and i just wanted to kind of briefly comment on the same post by SyrQ and BaltoButch.
i do not currently have a Daddy but i am a babygirl that highly believes that Daddies have feelings too, they go through things just like babygirls do and sometimes it is harder/tougher things because Daddies are expected to be big all of the time,especially to take care of Their babygirl. i think that Daddies always deserve time to relax, to let their emotions out, to deal with things in whatever positive way they need to, and to talk about whatever They need to. i am one of those babygirls that if my Daddy needs to cry, i want to cry with Him/Hym while i am either in His/Hys arms or holding Him/Hym in my arms. i do not believe it is possible for anyone to be strong and fully big all of the time, therefore i would find it highly odd if i had a Daddy and He/hy was always big, never cried or never needed to vent.Daddies are wonderful especially if You find the Daddy that is right for You. i can only hope that in time (hopefully sooner than later), the right Daddy for me will come along. In the mean time i just keep trying to enjoy the positive energy i get from being around other Daddies and babygirls such as in the orphanage and sometimes their are Daddies in chat and that is good too. babygirls rock and are totally awesome but in all honesty.... where would us babygirls be without such Wonderful, Thoughtful, Kind, Caring, Honest Daddies?
*Declares today Daddies Day and gives all of the Daddies a bag full of special goodies like car and sports magazines, candy, beer, different sodas, a special coffee mug, etc...* *Then gives everyone fresh baked brownies and chocolate chip cookies to celebrate, and gives the babygirls all new crayons, drawing paper, coloring books, stickers, glue sticks and glitter so they can make pretty pictures for the Daddies* *Colors every Daddy in the "O" a picture and signs my name to it with a pretty purple crayon, then puts them on the wall by each Daddy's chair*
Last edited by SoulSearcher; 06-25-2010 at 03:34 AM.
If my heart is broken, I have to be the one to mend it no matter how long it takes, for even the touch of your hand can not put it back together properly, it can only offer me a temporary fix, and one moment of peace and sanity.KOTC SoulSearcher
**watches the crimson blush take over your cheeks and winks at you again** I've always thought that there is nothing cuter than a girl's giggle, and I do think yours is adorable My dear. I also love to smile and to laugh, and I admit that even I blush too easily sometimes too but there is nothing wrong with being complimented on or passing on compliments to others* The apple of her cheeks turn a bright crimson at His wink and she giggles even more*, Thank You for the kindness You show me. It feels , hmm, really good.
i love to smile and laugh, and yes, sighs, i giggle alllllllll the time. lol. cant help it. and , yes, i blush too dang easy too, but it's all good i guess.
I am doing better health-wise, however i have noticed i am getting asthma attacks easier right now, but i am thinking it is due to still trying to recover fully. am having a bit of a harder time right now cause i went to karaoke tonight and the bar was filled with cigarette smoke. i did take my inhaler with me and tried to stand down wind. lol.
i hope all is well with You, and i am looking forward to talking with You again, hopefully soon.
I know that those dang bars can be all full of smoke, and that can make even the slightest of asthma worse (I don't have it, but I know others who do and being around all that smoke can suck). I'm glad to hear that your doing well and I do hope that we get to chat again very soon ~ we may have to set up a time when we're both online for that chat hun ........... you take care for now darlin
((((((((((((((Soul)))))))))))))))))) Hun, I know that you and I have had our good and bad times in the past but I just want you to know that all I want for you is to find your right Daddy and to be as happy as you deserve to be ~ you give so much to others that you deserve that love and thoughtfullness/kindness back a million fold. I hope your doing well honey
Be right back - I am going to go find Myself, if I leave before I get back make sure to tell Me
[QUOTE=BraedonAlexander;3274522]**watches the crimson blush take over your cheeks and winks at you again** I've always thought that there is nothing cuter than a girl's giggle, and I do think yours is adorable My dear. I also love to smile and to laugh, and I admit that even I blush too easily sometimes too but there is nothing wrong with being complimented on or passing on compliments to others
I know that those dang bars can be all full of smoke, and that can make even the slightest of asthma worse (I don't have it, but I know others who do and being around all that smoke can suck). I'm glad to hear that your doing well and I do hope that we get to chat again very soon ~ we may have to set up a time when we're both online for that chat hun ........... you take care for now darlin
*smiles sweetly as the red increases a tad * Yes, Syr, she thanks You for Your compliments.
Oh that is cool.. a Daddy that blushes too,, *giggles*..
i try to not let anything hinder me from doing what i love to do, and music and singing is an incredibly huge part of my life.
i would love to chat with You more,and hoping to chat with You more , and yes, at the same time would be awesome!! *giggles*
hope all is well with You,
hugss
debbie
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