Who Are We? Butch-Femme is about being who you are. It is not about "labels". We define who we are when we tell the truth about our lives. Butch, stone Butch, Femme, and stone Femme are natural gender expressions that are of the heart, having little to do with appearance or any stereotypical code of behavior.
Who exactly is this community for? Butch-Femme.com is primarily for Butches who are into Femmes, & Femmes who are into Butches. The focus is & always has been on that whole ying/yang of the Butch-Femme dynamic. Butch-Femme.com is one of the largest and oldest queer sites and of course, our community is accustomed to a variety of queer & curious folk wandering in. For the most part, respectful Queers who identify with other various descriptors are welcome, as long as the strong spirit of this Butch-Femme space is always honored. Tolerance is key.
So... who runs this joint?
The bizzy hub known as Butch-Femme.com was created in 1996 soley by the owners Daddy Rhon and Miz Chris. This homemade labor of love has been fueled by pizza and caffiene, and largely supported by fundraising.
What is the meaning behind the terminology prevalent in Butch-Femme culture?
So... who runs this joint?
How did the Butch-Femme renaissance begin online? In the 1950's, Butches and Femmes met in dark bars and softball fields, but in our era, technology has allowed a renaissance. Because of computers, this is the golden age for Butch-Femme culture. The earliest groups for Butches and Femmes started in the late 80's on UseNet message boards such as soc.women.lesbian-and-bi. There has been an active Butch-Femme community on AOL since it's infancy. The first public B-F mailing list groups were created in 1994 through QueerNet.org and Yahoo groups. The first comprehensive online community Rhon and Chris founded in 1996 was originally called "Butch-Femme Heaven." Yes, it was butt-ugly, but the site had several mailing list groups, and the first Butch-Femme-specific personals. (We did them by hand back then!) Soon after, Butch-Femme.com became the first domain dedicated to Butches and Femmes. Our servers kick out well over a million hits a day.