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One of the oldest and most reliable ways to build communty online is through email groups. The Butch-Femme.com hosts more than 20 Butch-Femme and gender-related Mailing List Communities founded on mutual respect and cooperation. Our lists are managed by Community Leaders who have volunteered their time as List Wranglers. Please follow the lead of the particular Wrangler for the list(s) you belong to since all the email lists on Butch-Femme.Com have their own particular habits. These are general guidelines that all lists and Wranglers on Butch-Femme.com are expected to honor.
We want to insure that our guests have a positive and enjoyable experience on our mailing lists, and feel comfortable contributing. Please feel free to direct other members of your mailing liss to these Forum Guidelines, but please do not take it upon yourself to tell our guests who is welcome on the site, or what topics of conversation are appropriate on our lists. That is the job of the List Wranglers and the Webmasters. Please do not attempt to subscribe to our mailing lists if you are under the age of 18.
Contributing on Butch-Femme.com's Mailing Lists
In all of cyberspace, Butch-Femme.com is a precious and rare gem because of the thoughtful and caring people who gather here. It is a real community in every sense if the word. If your contributions to the site help support and build community for Butches and Femmes, as most contributions do, you are right on target. As you make use of our friendly mailing lists, the Webmaster asks that a spirit of welcoming and acceptance always be honored in our list discussions. Bringing Butch-Femme people together is what Butch-Femme.com is all about. If you keep that in mind, your input and your presence will always be welcomed here.
If you feel rebellious about the idea of community and your personal goal is draw attention to yourself through divisiveness and bullying, your behavior will not be tolerated. You don't have to agree or even understand everyone's point of view, but to participate on our lists, you do need to respect and accept differing opinions. Unlike verbal exchanges in 3D, this medium naturally lends itself to composure. All we have in this space is our words. CHOOSE THE WORDS YOU WEILD WISELY. You own them.
Please keep in mind that Butch-Femme.com is not the publisher or author of any works posted by its members. and we do not screen posts before they are posted, and no prior approval is required for posting. Posts on the Forum do not necessarily represent Butch-Femme.com's own personal beliefs. (hardly!)
As a member of this very real community, you help set the standards. You can help us build community by giving back something positive of yourself. Encourage others, offer support, help new folks. We encourage you to shape this community with other members. In the real world, you might talk with your neighbors about issues that concern you in your building, street, school, or town. You might become involved in community activities, planning, or government. If someone on your street is noisy or offensive to others, you might get together with neighbors and leaders to collectively decide what to do. We hope our members will act responsibly in their virtual community, as they would in their own neighborhood. Please let us know if our attention is required.
Sometimes the mailing list environment has filled a need for community and expression in people's lives, and then a time naturally comes when they are no longer satisfied with the connection. They have made friends, found a lover, already made up their mind about gender, whatever... It’s almost like a breakup when you get to that point, letting this list go when it has been such a habit. If you tire of your mailing list, there are other pockets of community that you might enjoy, such as chat and the Forum, or the local FABU tribes. When it is time to move on, NEVER post to the list threatening to leave if things don't change. Please exit with dignity and grace. Good manners dictate that you tip your hat as you close the door, not take a biggo dump. The party will go on without ya, so let us remember you fondly. If you leave on good terms, you will always be welcomed back.
Lastly, Rhon and Chris both love the online community and it is our pleasure to bring Butches and Femmes together. We are glad to have you join our growing community, and as long as you have regard and respect for the sweet places that we call home, you will always be welcome to the resources on Butch-Femme.Com, or any other community projects that we have a hand in creating for the future... Enjoy!
The Webmasters reserve the right to adjust the guidelines as needed. Your use of the Butch-Femme.com Forum indicates that you have read and agreed to these guidelines.
