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What is the dealio with the Butch-Femme symbol? The suggestion of the Butch-Femme symbol is sexual passion, with the black triangle (butch) piercing the red circle (femme). The triangle has been a long-time symbol of queerness. The circle is an ancient goddess symbol, and both the triangle and the circle represent power. The Butch-Femme symbol on the site was created by Rhon for the community in general. Please feel free to use the universal Butch-Femme symbol for any community-building, non-commercial purposes outside the web site. If you want to use the symbol for some commercial purpose, please contact Rhon. All other text and graphics on the site are protected by our Copyright Policy. Click "more" to find some downloads for the B-F symbol for non-commercial use.

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	Who Are We? Butch-Femme is about being who you are. It is not about "labels". We define who we are when we tell the truth about our lives. Butch, stone Butch, Femme, and stone Femme are natural gender expressions that are of the heart, having little to do with appearance or any stereotypical code of behavior.

Who exactly is this web site for?
Butch-Femme.com is primarily for Butches who are into Femmes, & Femmes who are into Butches. The focus is & always has been on that whole ying/yang of the Butch-Femme dynamic. Butch-Femme.com is a public web site, of course, so we are accustomed to a variety of queer & curious folk wandering in. Tolerance is key. For the most part, respectful Queers who identify with other various descriptors are welcome, as long as the strong spirit of this Butch-Femme space is always honored.

How did the Butch-Femme renaissance begin online? In the 1950's, Butches and Femmes met in dark bars and softball fields, but in our era, technology has allowed a renaissance. Because of computers, this is the golden age for Butch-Femme culture. The earliest groups for Butches and Femmes started in the late 80's on UseNet message boards such as soc.women.lesbian-and-bi. There has been an active Butch-Femme community on AOL since it's infancy. The first public B-F mailing list groups Boychicks and Femmedykes were created by a dynamic Femme named Dorsie Hathaway through QueerNet.org in 1994. Today Queernet.org hosts dozens of Butch-Femme related mailing lists, as does Yahoo. The first comprehensive online community Rhon and Chris founded in 1996 was originally called "Butch-Femme Heaven." Yes, it was butt-ugly, but the site had several mailing list groups, and the original Butch-Femme-specific personals. (We did them by hand back then!) Soon after, Butch-Femme.com became the first domain dedicated to Butches and Femmes.

So... who runs this joint?

The bizzy hub known as Butch-Femme.com is a homemade, lil' Mom-and-Pop effort created soley by two people in love. This vibrant online community was created in 1996 by Daddy Rhon and Miz Chris, an old-school Butch-Femme couple out of Dallas. Meet the owners and creators: Butch-Femme.com Webmasters Daddy Rhon and Miz Chris...

It's almost as if you folks speak your own language. Is there a place where I can take a look at some of the terminology prevalent in Butch-Femme culture?

Why, yes there is!. Click yer mouse here.