musicman

Welcome regulars to my next blog installment.

As my subject line suggest, our lives as it lives out in a soap opera sequel online.
Love is a grand thing. We all can agree on that.We live for it, we desire it,we crave it, we need it, we think we can't live without it. Like one needs air and water to survive.

It's like a drug, a high, seeing that special someone come online or in chat. Just seeing their name pop up on yahoo or in your email inbox. We literally float on air.

I have been blessed to feel that feeling again in my life. Just when you think there is no one to share your life with. Just when you decide to stop looking, she enters your life like a whirlwind and changes your life forever.
Why is it that people have the need to go public with ones romance/love life. I certainly understand the feeling of wanting to yell from the tree tops you are in love. But to go public with every single thought one has for your gf or bf I don't understand.

This is my thinking, my take on it. If one goes public with ones romance, everyone is aware of it. We can't help not be aware of it. We are happy for you, for the love you have found. But, there is a but, if it goes "south" real fast, the honeymoon is over that too becomes public. Whether one party announces it or there is just silence. One assumes something has happened.

It's tough enough to go through a break up privately, it is even tougher to go through one publicly. Everyone asking what happened etc. Having ones words come back to bite you in the ass and embarrass you.

Some people don't realize that once you put pen to paper or in this case fingers to keyboard it is out there for everyone to see it. It doesn't go away.

I had an incident happen to me in chat today. A regular was in there with hys girlfriend. I had no idea she was his girlfriend and I had made a funny remark about his love life being such a soap opera. How do I know hys life is like a soap opera? This bois has no qualms telling people in chat his particulae issuse hy is having at the time with his gf. We are supportive in chat, we try to give sound advice. We aren't experts but we all have lived, loved and loss.

This particular bois gf didn't take to lightly my comment. She private message me and proceeded to scold me about my comment to her bois. I still had no idea she was with him until she told me to think before I spoke. I then put two and two together and came up with gf.

I kindly reminded her that I have never forced her bois to devulge the info he does in chat. I reminded her hy came in and discussed his issues. That when someone goes public with anything they leave themselves open to scrutiny.

I am a private person, as such I only write what i am comfortable with other people reading of me and of my life.

If I have aproblem with people knowing some part of my life it stays with me. I will not put it out there in public for all to see. I don't want my words to come back and bite me in the ass.

So folks, before you go telling everyone about your life or your love life or issues with partners REMEMBER you are NOT the only one reading it.

You will become Gays of Our Lives.