when is it too big?

[five_four_femme]

hello all this question is for my femme sisters but butches you may join in as well. as a femme have you ever been shocked when your butch showed you her cock for the first time and you thought it was too big? and butches do you try and shock us with the size? is that your turn on? would like to hear both sides, have a great day everyone.

[durden]

*starting to reply to this*

*feeling too damn shy*

*looking around for others*

[joybro]

:$ :$
lmao,.....Can it be too big??? No really if its to big I just ask what their plans are.... I love it when they are packing thats half the excitment!!!!
Joy(k)

[ThinkPynk]

I have wondered about this before as well. It seems like a lot of my stud friends enjoy slangin an enormous strap! I dont understand it. Im not sure if they just like the shock of whippin it out on you, I couldnt imagine even trying to insert some of these weapons. Im far from innocent, but Im not elastic girl, ya know!!! Maybe sum like it to hurt a little... I could somewhat understand that.
Personally I kinda like em little n cute...

[princessakittygirl w/meow]

Butchcock can be an extension of the wearer, but honestly if a butch is more concerned with hys stud appeal rather than my comfort, we're probably not going to go there.

I expect a butch Im planning to be intimate with to do a little planning with the girl(me) in mind not hys ego. So he should come with at least a few different sizes to see which one she is going to respond to best.

Femmes are generally open to trying anything new, that can be exciting, but a butch shouldnt just assume he knows unless hes had at least some discussion on the matter with the girl.

If he wants to strut a 10. Its fine..if he's planning on using it on me the first time we're together, he's going to get disappointed.

kitty le meow~(l)~

[CalifBadBoy03]

hmmmmm well I will chose not to disclose what size I pack with soft or hard, thats only for my girl to know, but I will say its not an eenie teenie weenie :)....but I will ask, whatever happened to the saying, "Its not all about the size but how ya work it?"

[BOOTYBUTCHBEAR]

I AS A BUTCH HAVE FOUND IT HELPFUL WHEN IN THE DATING SCENE TO KEEP ALL SIZES OF STRAPON ATTACTCHMENTS ON HAND . ALL WOMEN ARE BEAUTIFUL BUT, NOT ALL WOMEN WANT A BIG HUGE COCK STUFFED IN THEM. I THINK ITS GOOD TO FEEL OUT THE SITUATION SO NO DISCOMFORT OR EMBARASSMENT IS IN SIGHT.

[FemmeLovinBoi]

Originally posted by CalifBadBoy03
but I will ask, whatever happened to the saying, "Its not all about the size but how ya work it?"

^5 CBB. I was thinkin' the same thing.

[TmanSpenc]

Well, my cock is an extension of me. I have 2 that I fuck with, both are the same length, one is a bit thicker than the other. I'm not out to hurt anyone. I'm not out to be a "well hung stud." It's just me.

I have had partners say things like "Oh my... " and "are you sure I can take that?" And then everything worked out fine. Please keep in mind, I am NOT packing a 10... it's just above "average" size.

If my partner is concerned with the size, I just warm her up longer... things tend to all work out just fine.

Tman

[aprettydress]

so much...

i dated someone, okay, 2nd dated someone who pulled out the biggest dick i'd ever seen. (i hadn't seen many, up to that point).

i asked her, 'where are you planning on putting that?'

somehow, things have away of working themselves out (in).

-dirty dress

[wahine]

Originally posted by TmanSpenc
Well, my cock is an extension of me. I have 2 that I fuck with, both are the same length, one is a bit thicker than the other. I'm not out to hurt anyone. I'm not out to be a "well hung stud." It's just me.

I have had partners say things like "Oh my... " and "are you sure I can take that?" And then everything worked out fine. Please keep in mind, I am NOT packing a 10... it's just above "average" size.

If my partner is concerned with the size, I just warm her up longer... things tend to all work out just fine.

Tman

i am sooo..in the need to find sumone like you! you just cannot solve a dilemma by stuffin more..you need to apply heat, as general science taught us as kids ;)

[Thinker]

Originally posted by CalifBadBoy03
but I will ask, whatever happened to the saying, "Its not all about the size but how ya work it?"

My favorite saying with regard to this...

"It's not how deep you fish that counts; it's how you wiggle the worm."

(y)

[peas&carrots]

I don't care how big or small you pack. That's about you. But when it comes to doing "it", that's a different story. I've been in situations where we got to the moment and I felt kinda awkward. I didn't really know what to say because I didn't want to ruin the moment or hurt hys feelings, so I just went with it, and ow! That was not sexy or pleasurable for me. :(

Butches, if a femme thinks you're too big, what should she say so that it doesn't ruin the moment or make you feel awkward too?

[FemNLeatherNLace]

just sits quietly grinning and reading

[OneFemmeDiva]

hmmmmm... the bigger the better. Not so much lenght but thickness. I've searched and searched and have not found anything any company that makes one that I like.

I can't imagine my honey packing what I want hym to fuck me with... so I think several sizes are in order.

I think we'll need to have some made.

[shadowboi]

I usually buy a brand new one that I let her pick out. After all, if she isn't enjoying it, then its hardly worth the effort. I'm all about making my girl happy. I have ones that I pack with because some of them that have been selected are not condusive to packing...at least not without a :o

Jess

[1-Sunny-Spirit]

It is too big if she tells me it is too big ... I'd never ever want to hurt her.

I share Shadowboi's sentiments. New woman, new instrument.

I take her to make her selection or if she is a shy one, she defines the dimensions - then I make the purchase for us. She knows more about what size pleasures her the best.

I select the size of my soft pack. I am the one wearing it and I have to be comfortable with it.

[shadowboi]

Oh yea, I decide the soft pack!

[tommy]

Thank goodness for articulate femmes who let us know what they like, how big, how fast and how often, instead of just letting us flounder around with only our egos to guide us.

Size acceptance can change every day, a good femme will keep you on purpose.lolol


tommy

[FemmeUNeed]

I just had this discussion with my new sweety. We haven't done 'it' yet so I'm a little frightened. She claims to be packing a 11 in Sean Micheal special (who is that??) and just the thought of 11in of anything going in there has me wetting my pants! Anyone have any advice for me to get over my fear?:s

[1-Sunny-Spirit]

I am lol with you, tommy, regarding your post .... you got it right, Buddy!

[JetBoy]

Is it too big if I've tripped over it?

<blink, blink>

[Eve]

FemmeUNeed, you asked:
Anyone have any advice for me to get over my fear?

Not to get all geeky on you, but there's this saying from _Dune_ about fear ... no, that's really not helpful (though fear IS the mindkiller). ;)

Really, if you are nervous, TELL the person that. There's absolutely NO shame in having qualms, especially if you aren't a size queen (moi, I am, but I wasn't always that way and I have ALWAYS made it a point to be honest about sex with anyone I'm having sex with).

If you WANT to try to take it, let them know that. If you are curious to see how it goes, let them know _that_. But don't just shut up and take it even if it hurts just to please them (unless you're in a scene, in which case, the rules are different but STILL up to y'all). Anyone who gets pissed off 'cause you are being honest about your sexual needs is not going to make a very good lover. IMO.

~Eve

[Frogs N Rainbows]

Wow! Awesome subject.
I love strap-ons....and what I love even more is the fact that my guy uses 'em!

I think it is unfair that any butch assume that a femme wants something gigantic and painful.
Don't we all like a little phone sex or intimate conversation before deciding to make love? That would be a good way to figure out how big that butch is. Make it playful and fun....no one gets embarrassed or hurt! :$

Frogs N Rainbows

[Tabitha]

Femmes are generally open to trying anything new, that can be exciting, but a butch shouldnt just assume he knows unless hes had at least some discussion on the matter with the girl.

If he wants to strut a 10. Its fine..if he's planning on using it on me the first time we're together, he's going to get disappointed.

kitty le meow~(l)~ [/B][/QUOTE]


Im a little late responding to this.. but Kitty is correct on her statement.
My ex strutted around with an 11....NOW.. my first question to hym was "who the hell are you planning to please with that?"

Im sticking to my old statement..."Its not the size of the wand, its the Magic behind it"

[Leesa]

The best approach is the direct one in my opinion. If she feels that she is not able to take it then the femme should simply and honestly express her opinion to the boi. If hy has any tact then hy will take the hint and perhaps try to see if when things get going if things aren't as bad as you fear. But if they are then hy needs to stop right away and find another way to pleasure you.

After all it is about pleasing the womyn we are with for most of us.(l) If this turns into something a little more steady then perhaps shopping together is in order.

I like it when a womyn tells me how she likes it and what exactly she likes. Most butches that are secure in themselves will not be offended. Besides which I personally don't think that an "unrealistic" size is all that sexy at all.

I want the grrl I am with to go "oh my" in a good way not in fear

[UltraHiFemme]

Jetboi , by the way, that was hilarious!

I was a virgin as far as penetration is concerned before my butch so to me ANY size was too big :$ . Things are quite different nowadays!

I think the size my butch uses to pleasure me would be too big for packing purposes, without disclosing the size of my sweeties lovetool (l) ....

Everyone is different. I think a butch that takes the time to be considerate of the woman they are about to be intimate with shows they care and are not just out for an ego stroke. Some women cringe over a mere 6 inches and some girls beg for 10 or 12 inches. Not gonna say which girl I am LOL

[spnkehd]

Nothing is to big or to small. I will take what ever I am told to take! I find that what ever my Daddy will give me is always just right.

[cajunbell]

I agree 100% spnkehd...if Daddy isn't happy then no one will be happy....If its what my boi wants then that is what he will get, keep hym happy in bed they won't go very far





A good butch is like a good bike: sleek, powerful, and one Hell of a ride.

[bigdaddystone]

hmmm, I think moderation is the key in the begining, and it has to be comfortable to pack too, I prefer to take my girl to the toy store and let her pick out what she would like. Its kind of a fun thing to do also

[shifty]

What an intriguing topic! I've always been kinda wary in regards with size (and shape) my schlong is with the femme I'm with, so I let her pick out what she would like, either by going to a 'toy' store, thumb through a good vibrations catalog, or go online. Personally, I'm not too crazy about wearing "realistic ones", especially in that god-awful flesh color! (whose skin is really that color anyway!)

[tori]

am i highly unusual in this regard?

i keep my own collection ... various sizes, etc. i know what i like and when (woman's perogative, and all that). i love toy shopping with a butch ... 'honey, how would this look in me?' :p

~tori, going to hide in the corner

[IDontWearAny]

Too big? Well on the first fuck I hate to show all that I can take..lol I mean gosh I am a good lil grrl and all. I have to keep the "virgin" image going for as long as possible. Warm me up and I'll never complain. Variation is a good thing. I don't want big all of the time. I like the way the short ones can hit the spot so nicely. A good fuck always comes well prepared.
Have I ever been worried...hells yeah! Worried that I wont wanna stop once I've started. Pain pretty much = pleasure in my book on a good night so I'll never run. It's all about the person on the giving end. If they don't handle me right they wont have the chance to see how I can handle them.
Ego..nothing turns me off more.
*I tripped and skinned my knee the other night in the woods..I thought it was a log. Was that you Jet..lol?*

[novacainmornings]

I had never had contact with one before i got with the boi im with now and after about 6months of us being together we had started talking about it, and i had sent hym to the "store" to get one, Hy had never used one before and had never bought one before and did not know what to get, when i got home from work, i walked into the house and was greeted at the door by hym wearing this (what i thought to be huge at the time) strap-on, And now we are talking about getting a bigger one( I am not a size queen or any thing), even though i was in that since still a virgin, having never had penitration. And now i think i am just about willing to try anything, at least once.... Sometimes Pain is the pleasure! (6)


Nova~

[ALovedTomboy]

Originally posted by five_four_femme
hello all this question is for my femme sisters but butches you may join in as well. as a femme have you ever been shocked when your butch showed you her cock for the first time and you thought it was too big? and butches do you try and shock us with the size? is that your turn on? would like to hear both sides, have a great day everyone.


Hmm, my, my!


Well, I was the one who begged for the size of the cock my Daddy has. It was what I wanted and believe me hy didn't mind at all. So, there was no real shock value.

About the only *shock* would have been never having really been into penetrative sex before hym and giving a very special part of myself to hym.



(l)
If my partner is concerned with the size, I just warm her up longer... things tend to all work out just fine.

Tman(l)

i love that Tman! Nick is the same way, not that it takes long ta warm up mind you!

[FireHeart]

... depends on the look in her eyes ....

[Lady K]

Originally posted by FemmeUNeed
I just had this discussion with my new sweety. We haven't done 'it' yet so I'm a little frightened. She claims to be packing a 11 in Sean Micheal special (who is that??) and just the thought of 11in of anything going in there has me wetting my pants! Anyone have any advice for me to get over my fear?:s

sean michaels is a porn star with a very large member....and omg, i have no idea how to help you get over your fear b/c that sh*t is too big! *laugh*

maybe it's because i'm a petite girl, and i certainly like some width, but i'm not trying to choke on your dick....well, at least not from it entering that way!

kidding...kidding....

*laugh*
lady k

[a_lovn_boi]

I just want mine to pleawe my woman so I'll be any size she wants. If shes pleased I know I am

[bigdaddystone]

hmmm, I have been reading over a few posts in here that really have me wanting to say a couple things, firstly, the size of a womans body doesn't always nessesarily have a thing to do with what she can take. Queen size women , at least in my experience, do not have more space in there. Ive been with one small girl that could of taken all of that sean micheals dong( the 11)
and have room yet for a small compact car and a picnic table, but seriously.............

When i started strapping I was with a queen size lady, and being big myself i thought something large would be in order, I ended up very embarrassed because of my ignorance and my choice. The last thinG I wanted to do is hurt her, she had never been penetrated by anything but a finger and now I bought too big a dick......................
every ,single, gal is different, some like a tight fit, even pain, which I am not into giving. It can be a touchy issue, the worst being, the womon not saying "hey, thats a little large, or that hurts, "
I always take into consideration they way the woman is about speaking up for her self and I watch to see if she may have some past issues like abuse, rape , victimisation. I refuse to become her perpetrator again . After all, this is suposed to feel good!
not to mention ,womYn that have been abused are sometimes desensitized to sexual pain, they can readily dissassociate and that can be dangerous.
I guess I need to say another thing to the girl who's boi has the 11 and she is scared......................I hope that before you actually have sex with hym you tell hym how you feel, and that you are afraid. Pay close attention also how hy responds to your concern, if he doesnt care , or persists that you oblige him that is a big ego red warning flag......... which is scarier yet.

A good butch wants to know if something hurts you. It is not one of those things you just do for your butch because hy wants it.
I look at my dick as her pleasure not mine when it comes to making love........Ill pack what I want to feed my ego.
Im not getting down on folks that like the rough stuff, it is their perogative . but it is definately best to disscuss your concerns or fears before you ever even get to that point, and know some of your partner"s history. I know from experience, nothing makes a butch feel worse than being inticed into a victims way of continuing or reinacting past abuse or self inflicted pain by not saying a thing or asking to be hurt even more just in the name of " love or submission , whatever.

well I have rambled enough, but my advice to the ladies is the same, speak up, please, we want to know.If an ego cant handle it , maybe thats an ego you dont want to deal with in the future.
( oh subtle hints arent good enough during the heat of passion either ............STOP>>>>>THAT HURTS>>>>> GET OFF ME>>>>>>>>>WHATEVER. but say it.
oh yeah one more thing about womons body size, dont always judge a box by its cover ......................................lol

Peace..........................................stone

[The_Lady_Snow]

:$ doesn't matter how long it is all about how round....


ooO(did I j ust say that)


BAD BAD EVIL TWIN

[C.C. Cleveland]

I usually discuss this with my girls first and let them decide what they like most because they are the ones who knows just how much it takes. And yes, no matter what size or if it's hard or soft u should always give her a good warm up then the only lubricant needed is made by her....

[DScout]

It is a bit delicate to discuss, before the "first" time, but somehow you have to talk. Hard, soft, fat, long, whatever...you have to check it out !

As a butch, you know when it hurts your girl. You just know. Whether it is because she stiffens up or whatever, you know. I had a girrl, one time, that wanted all she could take...which was about all I could give with modern day equipment. Then one day she decided that was too much, so she just told me...we went to a smaller model. LOL

Seriously, this (too big) can be terribly painful and I think that if you are in tune with your girl...you know when enough is too much ! Sometimes I worry that girrls will take it as long as the butch dishes it out. Out of Respect, expectations, or who knows why. Girrls if it hurts, and your butch is to oblivious...tell hym about it !!


;)
DS

[frenchone]

I am hoping that size is not all that matters...I want to deliver the goods in all ways and not just have it come down to size...I want to deliver the whole package of goodies..Romance, the proper ambience, the kisses and the tender moments of love and laughter and then to share the agreed upon size in the most passionate and sensual way that is my goal.(l)

[bigdaddystone]

very nicely said!....I agree

[TainoWarrior]

I have always had a big imagination and along with that imagination comes a nice healthy thick cock. Some femmes want length others width I aim to plesure my lady therefore my macho ego is second and pleasuring my lady is number one. You choose mamita and papito will work it.

Taino Warrior
Paz y amor

[bit]

If you're a queen size femme and hy's a king size butch, you might need a couple inches longer than otherwise, because of the "belly factor." You aren't going to have to take all of it.

Although I confess, 11 inches would scare me silly, and I wouldn't allow it unless I knew in advance hy was damn experienced with it and could control how far hy pushed it no matter *how* hot hy got. That takes a LOT of trust.

[bigdaddystone]

bit, yes that is true speaking from experience, Im big and I like big ladies, but you have to make sure exactally how far things go, It is a little more complicated being large folks but very feasable with out hurting anyone, it takes practice and the ability to treat each person you are with as an individual with their own limits . my statement was mainly about the illusion that bigger gals can take larger dongs, length may have to be adjusted accordingly , thickness to personal comfort but the biggest thing is how you work it with out going too far with things cause if you are a big butch and you have a big lady and a big dick it just takes a little while to make sure it causes pleasure and not pain. To have more than you need is easier to accomidate her needing more than you have , it just takes knowing your partner , practice and moderation.


..........................................stone

[daisygem9]

i just felt the need to share my first experience w/ size n strapping

me n my boifriend went to the store
hy picked the dong of hys dreams
it came in 3 sizes
i grabbed the smallest
hy grabbed the biggest
we settled on the medium
and i was VERY happy later
now im the hornyest lil size queen youll ever meet

lol
gonna go hide under da bed now

[mainelyfemme]

Originally posted by bigdaddystone
<snip> It is a little more complicated being large folks but very feasable with out hurting anyone, it takes practice and the ability to treat each person you are with as an individual with their own limits . my statement was mainly about the illusion that bigger gals can take larger dongs, length may have to be adjusted accordingly , thickness to personal comfort....... <snip>

EXACTLY!! :D Thank You, thank You stone! I'm a supersized gal and I used to be a size queen and truth be told I still am... I crave as much as my Daddi will give me!

Trouble is, 3 years ago I had a hysterectomy - no more uterus and I'm VERY small inside now! *POUT*:( I fill up much faster then I used to. It still feels the same... as yummy as it always did... but I *KNOW* I'm not getting as much as I *used* to and I guess I'm just a greedy lil' girl! :):$ ;) (a)

So once again... it's NOT about what we look like on the outside that dictates what we are like on the inside. :)

[jules82]

I'm pretty small, so if hy's too big, we have a conflict. I'm not eager to be torn in half. :p

[sensuousfemme]

.. guess my experiences are limited here... Any butch I've been w/ has always included me in the purchasing of 'our' cock... i always got the 2nd vote... we do buy various sizes depending on both our moods... sometimes the smaller one for a relaxed slow lovemaking afternoon... other times the larger one for a night of love-fucking.. (blush)... now that we've been together for 3 years, I do get surprised by new and different cocks... I have had to say "ummm... where are u planning on putting that" on occasion... but like all good things?? We've worked it all out!

Guess I'm lucky enuf to have a butch that will work to 'lead up to' the biguns... AND one who asks and doesn't assume.

Gonna go find my sweetie, this seems to have peaked my ummm.. interest...


:)

[CrystalBear]

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>Its too big when she calls out its name and NOT mine.
lol:@
CB

[Butchie]

Originally posted by CrystalBear
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>Its too big when she calls out its name and NOT mine.
lol:@
CB

CB - that's just scarefully wrong!

Butchie - trying to recollect whose name she cried in the dark

[UrBelovedFemme]

I keep coming back to the same answer when I see this thread being read....my answer...

When I say ouch(6)

[lov2explore]

Very interesting subject matter. All points of view appear to be represented here. [COLOR=blue]My partner of many years was a total virgin to the concept of fucking when we first met. (We spent time getting to know and trust one another.) The thought excited her greatly. As obviously it does me. The one I choose to "break her in" with was larger than most but by all means not a monster cock. With gentle foreplay and lots of lubricant the experience was very nice for her. I praised her on accepting the initial pain of intercourse. I made her understand how much it meant to me to be able to make love to her in this intense manner. After the first few times the pain no longer existed and she craves having me inside of her. As she grew accustomed to each size the cock size grew too. She actually prefers thick cocks and is not so keen on the length because some do hurt her cervix. We have made it to monster boy Kong. A meaty cock that fills her up just right. And no need to slam that bad boy all the way in......it works great. I must impress upon you that this took love, trust, time and patience to achieve this level of "cock".
I tend to think this is reserved more for seriously dating or committed partners. I can not imagine the thoughts that may go through some sweet little femme's mind when someone she just met wants to fuck her with a huge cock.
I think that it is a turn on for many of us Daddys' to have a larger than life cock. This too can turn on the right femme.
Always refreshing to hear the femme's point of view. Hope you enjoyed mine.

I am the Leather Daddy

[GemmeFemme]

Anyone remember that phrase, 'if you don't use it, you lose it'? Well it's applicable to this situation, at least with me.

When it's been a while since I've been with someone or if we haven't had sex with penetration in a while, I can't take what I used to. I'm built small inside anyway, but I used to be able to handle quite a bit. :$

The body is a remarkable thing. It constantly adapts and regenerates. Start smaller, then you can always get larger and thicker cocks.

[bit]

Oh, that happens to me, too, GemmeFemme. I need regular sex to be able to take the bigger cocks, and being single usually means I tighten back up. I just thought that was normal. <smile>

[Woodie69]

I think that satisfying my lover/partner is more important than me fucking her with a huge cock. I think it is a matter of communication, not wanting to hurt her at all, and intimacy. I think it is wonderful to go shopping together to select a new cock or two that is mutually agreeable, as well as other toys.

[GemmeFemme]

Bit,

Yep, it is normal, and it's quite nice usually when I am with someone for the first time after a dry spell. They totally get off on the 'like new' or 'virginal' quality (?) of my, ahem, interior.

It's just good to know I am not the only one.

[artemis1044]

Originally posted by aprettydress
so much...

i dated someone, okay, 2nd dated someone who pulled out the biggest dick i'd ever seen. (i hadn't seen many, up to that point).

i asked her, 'where are you planning on putting that?'

somehow, things have away of working themselves out (in).

-dirty dress

You are so right...

[songmistress]

I dont like something thats real big. Usually my boi uses her finger and thats what my body is used to so when she uses her strap on it can hurt..anyone else know what I am talking about?

[SnugglyGirl007]

Um...I knew the dildo we ordered was too big when the UPS guy delivered it and said it was awfully heavy for a small box, then when I opened it, it was so big my hand could barely fit around it and I left it in the plastic and said "hell no, this king kong thing is going back" - she agreed!

The story doesn't stop there though...this has nothing to do with size, but it just so happened when I put the dildo back in the box, I set it on the floor. My girl and I went out of town and had a friend come over to check on our animals. We get a ring a ling with some laughter you could write home about, with her saying "what the f*** is this humongous big blue thing in the middle of your living room" - of course, we both died with laughter too and had to explain...apparently, the dog thought it was some sort of carcass and hauled it off to the living room to greet our friend who came over to check on the animals.

Nice, hunh? :$

[BrainyFemme]

Originally posted by SnugglyGirl007
Um...I knew the dildo we ordered was too big when the UPS guy delivered it and said it was awfully heavy for a small box, then when I opened it, it was so big my hand could barely fit around it and I left it in the plastic and said "hell no, this king kong thing is going back" - she agreed!

The story doesn't stop there though...this has nothing to do with size, but it just so happened when I put the dildo back in the box, I set it on the floor. My girl and I went out of town and had a friend come over to check on our animals. We get a ring a ling with some laughter you could write home about, with her saying "what the f*** is this humongous big blue thing in the middle of your living room" - of course, we both died with laughter too and had to explain...apparently, the dog thought it was some sort of carcass and hauled it off to the living room to greet our friend who came over to check on the animals.

Nice, hunh? :$


LMAO...I am now going to thread stalk snuggly cause she is so damned funny! LOL

Okay my answer and I seem to be in the minority...

When is it too big? Ummmm

Never!!!!!!!!!!

Laura <---Guapo's grrl and full-time smartass

[SnugglyGirl007]

Originally posted by BrainyFemme
LMAO...I am now going to thread stalk snuggly cause she is so damned funny! LOL

Okay my answer and I seem to be in the minority...

When is it too big? Ummmm

Never!!!!!!!!!!

Laura <---Guapo's grrl and full-time smartass


Why thank you Ms Brainy...stalk away!!! (p) (p) (p)

[GuapoButch]

Originally posted by BrainyFemme
LMAO...I am now going to thread stalk snuggly cause she is so damned funny! LOL

Okay my answer and I seem to be in the minority...

When is it too big? Ummmm

Never!!!!!!!!!!

Laura <---Guapo's grrl and full-time smartass



God I LOVE this womyn!!! Lucky ME.

--- GB

[BrainyFemme]

Originally posted by GuapoButch
God I LOVE this womyn!!! Lucky ME.

--- GB

<BLUSH> You only surface when sex is involved, honey! LOL


Laura <---Guapo's grrl and full-time smartass that has a pretty good idea where that came from LMAO

[riotgrrrl]

It definitly can be TOO big!!! :$

I think that's why a selection can be nice, or to go shopping together so both parties are involved. But yes, as CCB posted, part of it is DEFINITLY how you work it! But it certainly can be too big!!!

I think the material also matters - the harder latex toys can be a bit more difficult/uncomfortable than the cyberskin cocks. My boi recently surprised me, hy was packing with a our first cyberskin, and was that ever a delightful evening!!!

(k) Riot

[rainboi_blue]

cyberskin is DEF most excellent.....and many nice items can be found on trans-boi sites too! (just fyi!)

[Natkat]

Reading these posts makes me feel bad because I'm one of the never-too-big kinda girls. But then I've had two kids and my partner enjoys fisting me regularly, so I guess over time I've, uh, er, expanded.

I don't enjoy dildos all that much - I prefer hands - but I do it for my sweetie because she loves puttin' it to me from time to time. Also I find that my toy "burns" when it's been inside me for a while. What causes that?

[toriwants]

Originally posted by CrystalBear
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>Its too big when she calls out its name and NOT mine.
lol:@
CB

ROFLMMFAOOOOO

[little man]

Originally posted by Natkat
Also I find that my toy "burns" when it's been inside me for a while. What causes that?


i'd say it's likely latex sensitivity. check into non-latex condoms for it.

[justbutch]

Too big???


Shit....the fucker's too big when you're swinging it and the damn snaps pop through the leather! :o

Hell....you know the fucker's too big when there not a ring big enough to stretch around it to snap it on the harness! :o



Ok, ok......



No, I definitely agree with asking your gyrl what size shy prefers. And If shy's not really familiar with using them, the best thing would be to go to the store together. Any Butch who's ever gone to one of those stores with hys gyrl knows that is one of the funniest experiences they could have together! :)


(6)(6)Just the Butchemyn(6)(6)

[SlimsTwin]

Well from my personal experience I've had girls say that I was rather large. They even questioned if they could take the size I had to give, but when we got down to it she was happy.
You just have to take it easy at first and work them up to it, eventually they will open up and accept your pleasure. Actually most of the girls I've been with have been happy when they realize they can take it, and they realize they've experienced a feeling they never have before.
Ya just have to slide it in slow, and ask them "are you ok?", or "am I hurting you?" and seriously guys they always say "no your not hurting me and please don't stop!"! Then it gets even more intresting!!!

Gotta love gymnasty!

[Osiris]

When your femme says " OUCH ". That should be a good hint.

[kouklafemme]

Well, I personally think that size does matter..... even though we are all women our bodies are shaped and sized different.... I can have an orgasm with a 5 inch and with a 10 inch... Its how they use it !!!
Its all in the technique !!!!!

hugs to all !!

koukla
(k) (k) (k) (k) (k) (k) (k) (k)

[leatherandlace]

I just picked up Vixen Creation's "Johnny." Not to long, but it sure is, ahem, "big boned."

We's going for a test drive tonight! (6)

[danamitey]

well at one point i might have said.. is it ever too big?... but i can say from experience sometimes it hurts more then it should...

i do know all women are not created equal...so there should be some variety offered incase she cannot handle as much as hy has to offer
.. i also know you can't make butter with a toothpick

[Chocgal]

"hello all this question is for my femme sisters but butches you may join in as well. as a femme have you ever been shocked when your butch showed you her cock for the first time and you thought it was too big? and butches do you try and shock us with the size? is that your turn on? would like to hear both sides, have a great day everyone."

I don't like large penis shaped things(smaller the better), after all its the what you do with it that really counts. I would rather not bother with the penetration sometimes, its not the only thing that turns me on you know. Anyone else think that strapon sex could be a simulation of straight sex? just a thought.

[Rainbow Skittles]

I have NO idea what people would consider "large"...but I love it when hye penetrates me and there is just a touch of pain, but once hye sinks in, no pain, only pleasure.

There is just something about that initial penetration that gets me.......mmmmm......the pinch that lets me know hye's there!

[1PlayfulFemme]

I think this (as shown by the thread) depends on the person. I don't worry about size. I view it as an extension of my butch. Therefore, I see it as her choice. I have been with women that chose smaller...and women who have chosen larger...Naturally, I want my butch to notice if it seems to be too big or hurting me...
I have only been with one woman who refused to negotiate as it was "hers"...and not "mine". *smilin* Notice...she is someone I WAS with...not someone I AM with. *winks*

Please me....Please yourself...make me smile when I think about you...make me shiver when I run my hand across your lap (or lay my head on your lap) and realize you are packing, when I didn't know you were...make me gasp when you enter me...make my heart change cadence while you love me...make me want, desire, need more (and not size *grin*)...make me wet with the very thought of you being inside me...leave me satisified, yet wanting...

*smile* Find that size does not matter for either of us...for you have crossed over the moat, fought the dragon, and pleasured your princess...and in the process...found that deep, needy pleasure of your very own.

That is what it is about for me...both of us...finding pleasure in each others bodies and souls.

[Butchie]

Originally posted by Chocgal
"hello all this question is for my femme sisters but butches you may join in as well.

... and butches do you try and shock us with the size? is that your turn on? would like to hear both sides, have a great day everyone."



Yes. We very much enjoy the look femmes get when we show them our big butch cock. Wide eyed wonder mixed with a little fear.

Skittles: "I have NO idea what people would consider "large"..."

would you like the precise measurements, sweetheart?
Do you remember what you said the first time you saw "Bear"?

Butchie - all about scarin' my femme silly with big butch cock

[DebonairMoon]

Originally posted by 1PlayfulFemme

*smile* Find that size does not matter for either of us...for you have crossed over the moat, fought the dragon, and pleasured your princess...and in the process...found that deep, needy pleasure of your very own.

That is what it is about for me...both of us...finding pleasure in each others bodies and souls.

While this is about size, I liked this part....and thank you for crossing moats, and letting moats be crossed...Lil playful one ;)

but, as far as size..

You know it's too big when she can't speak...even to say ouch..
It's either that or someone didn't use enough lube....

In all seriousness...if you know what you're doing and not out to hurt someone, it all works it's way..out and in..

[Ravenouss]

Originally posted by five_four_femme
hello all this question is for my femme sisters but butches you may join in as well. as a femme have you ever been shocked when your butch showed you her cock for the first time and you thought it was too big? and butches do you try and shock us with the size? is that your turn on? would like to hear both sides, have a great day everyone.

LOL...

I pack soft ones, hard ones, small ones that are hardly bigger than my middle finger, medium, big, huge and even a size that would not fit IN anyone. It all depends on the ocasion and the purpose of it all. I don't pack to shock people w/ the size, though I have known to have done that. Both ways. That is, people shocked that it was too big and people shocked that it was "soft" instead of hard...

mmm... I agree that it is not the size but how you use it. Also, sometimes you may pack a big one for effect, but use a smaller one for the action itself.

And some people like it BIG... nothin' wrong w/ that! lol

Ravenouss

[kittenDP]

*Blink*
Ok..is there really such a thing as 'too big'?
Define it? Length? Girth?

I mean, hell I dont want it so long that I hear ringing in my ears, nor do I want it so fat that its wider than the spreader bar.
BUT seriously, if one is with a butch packing that kinda heat, Im pretty much thinking you got some warning just in the way they walk! lol

Im a size queen...Im yet to meet one 'too big' ..

However, Im curious, have you ever had to tell your beloved butch...its too small?

LOL

Just curious is all ;)

[Eva femme]

Yes, there is such a thing as 'too big'. Lengthwise in any case for me. It bumps my cervix and that feeling makes me naucious. I don't enjoy it at all. I don't have problem with width. More than that, I like them wide. I remember being with someone once or twice who liked to put a gigantic one in me. Even to the point that it hurt somewhat and that I bled a bit. Hey, it turned us both on. Very nice. I never get scared by the size of a dick. If I think it's too long I just say 'no'. I know the difference between exciting play-pain and what is really very uncomfortable.

Eva

[Eva femme]

Too small? Too narrow in my case. Yes, it happened. Because it were casual contacts I didn't mention it. If it would involve someone closer to me I would enthousiastically encourage them trying out a bigger one 'just for the fun of it' or 'because I like to feel it'. Without telling them that the one they are using now is not the size that fills me completely with passion. It happens.

Eva

[Concrete_Angel]

Yes it is possible to be too big. I was with a butch about 6 years back, who pulled out something that look to be borrowed from King Kong. :| I asked, "Where do you think that is going?" It didn't happen.

Her need for the HUGE strap was based on ego, looking down and thinking how well she was *endowed*. It had nothing to do with my pleasure, which was such a turn off. YES I like the butch to have a nice visual, but if my comfort is not taken into account, I sure won't be moaning sweet little southern nothings in their ear, but more like shrieks of OUCH!

<~~~ easily filled, and so not a size queen, but then, don't need to be, if you know what I mean. ;)

[Star_catcher]

Yep..there is a point of having it too big...lol It's either length or girth..and it's up to the receiver to tell you which one she wants or needs at the time..hehe :P

[Eva femme]

Yes it is possible to be too big. I was with a butch about 6 years back, who pulled out something that look to be borrowed from King Kong. :| I asked, "Where do you think that is going?" It didn't happen.

Her need for the HUGE strap was based on ego, looking down and thinking how well she was *endowed*. It had nothing to do with my pleasure, which was such a turn off. YES I like the butch to have a nice visual, but if my comfort is not taken into account, I sure won't be moaning sweet little southern nothings in their ear, but more like shrieks of OUCH!

<~~~ easily filled, and so not a size queen, but then, don't need to be, if you know what I mean. ;)
I SO VERY MUCH agree with you.

Eva

[GinaMartinez]

I like different sizes depending on the mood, where it's going. I think it has a lot to do with the wearer, really. I am lucky to be with an older, experienced butch who knows what she's about! She's well-hung but doesn't have anything to prove. Personally, though, I almost always like it big!

However, if you're talking about the back door.......

[lostNU]

I SO VERY MUCH agree with you.

Eva

Im with EVA i totally agree with you. Well said Concrete Angel and might I add there should be an EGO check-out/ARE YOU SERIOUS qustionaire before they purchase!

[Wolfmaster]

My Partner has always informed me " Bigger is always Better " ;) Maybe she needs to say a few words in this thread....... (t)Calling her now... One ringy -dingy (f) Two ringie-dingy...............(f) (l)(l)(l)

[queenofsmirks]

Yes it is possible to be too big. I was with a butch about 6 years back, who pulled out something that look to be borrowed from King Kong. I asked, "Where do you think that is going?" It didn't happen.

Her need for the HUGE strap was based on ego, looking down and thinking how well she was *endowed*. It had nothing to do with my pleasure, which was such a turn off. YES I like the butch to have a nice visual, but if my comfort is not taken into account, I sure won't be moaning sweet little southern nothings in their ear, but more like shrieks of OUCH!...


I SO VERY MUCH agree with you.
Eva

And I second, or third, that. I was with someone years ago who was relaying a story to me about an experience s/he had in the past, and apparently the femme somehow relayed her discomfort at it being too big - so in response, s/he says something like "this is the size of my _______, period!" - as if I was supposed to applaud and say "good for you!"

Unfortunately, it had quite the opposite effect. It was a complete turnoff. And although I didn't say it, I was thinking
A) Sh/e needed get over herself; and B) S/he needed to get into therapy so s/he could stop relying on the size of her dick as an ego booster.

[DaddyPsyche]

Alright, I admit it...my expression right now is along the lines of ...

:|

I can't imagine refusing to change sizes if my partner was uncomfortable. Granted, I would probably ask for her to give me one chance before saying no...because, sometimes it's really not the size, it's how it's used. For instance...it's not a battering ram...although sometimes *trails off mid-sentence*

Anyway, I'm rather attached to my cock. I've used the same type for years because I love the texture, the shape, and yes...the size...it fits perfectly in my hand. I know they make my particular model smaller, but thankfully I've never had to purchase one.

[Sophisticated1]

Well that about sums it up. Too big or too whatever, you just don’t want to be presenting your love with somehting that makes her go, “OH HELL NO!” :o

Personally, I think it is a damn shame to latch on to that tired macho big dick equals big talent, big fun myth! (n)

I always think that it is better when you know and respond to what she likes rather than telling her what a grand time she is going to have because of you and your large, accommodating staff! I mean really, doesn't that just make her think that there are two big dicks in the room? :|

S1

[Eva femme]

Granted, I would probably ask for her to give me one chance before saying no...because, sometimes it's really not the size, it's how it's used. For instance...it's not a battering ram...although sometimes *trails off mid-sentence*
Oh yes, I completely understand that too. And I usually give it a chance. Although for instance if it's very long I'll tell them not to come in too deeply or we will have to choose a position that allows a longer one. It is how it is. If we can make it work, wonderful. If not, we don't do it or we have a problem. That means no fucking or trying other ways.

Eva

[lostNU]

Well that about sums it up. Too big or too whatever, you just don’t want to be presenting your love with somehting that makes her go, “OH HELL NO!” :o

Personally, I think it is a damn shame to latch on to that tired macho big dick big talent, big fun myth! (n)

I always think that it is better when you know and respond to what she likes rather than telling her what a grand time she is going to have because of you and your large, accommodating staff! I mean really, doesn't that just make her think that there are two big dicks in the room? :|

S1

a dainty/Lgirly (dont break my nails) high five to you .........you can continue to be as BIG as you want when it comes to understanding :).

[~LadyJane~]

I can relate, the last butch I dated, was a attached to the size of the cock she strapped.. but I am pretty blunt.. and I absolutely stand my ground. I've had a sex injury or two, and not going down that route again.. it's about the pleasure.. not the ego.. and too much of an ego is sooooo unattractive!

[desdansmoncoeur]

It's too big when all the lube in the world still won't get it in .... :|
Seriously.

Or when it's just not enjoyable.

I've yet to have the 'Where the hell is THAT go?!' reaction.

I will admit to being horribly greedy sometimes (okay, so a lot) when it comes to size and what I can take - but I feel the need to point out that going small-to-large isn't a bad thing (some of us are just impatient and want to force without the gradual increase...surely I can't be the only one?)

I swear I'll practice what I preach, someday.

Until then, I should invest stock in lubrication.

;)

[Concrete_Angel]

Wow.. reading everyone's responses in here has been enlightening and enjoyable!! :) SO glad to know I am not the only anti-size queen. I also agree it is in how it is used, and the intent, (read pleasure v/s ego) behind it. :)

I guess if they insist on using a ginormous one, you could show them what it is like when the proverbial...erm.. shoe... is on the..femme foot. ;)

[All Flavors]

I guess if they insist on using a ginormous one, you could show them what it is like when the proverbial...erm.. shoe... is on the..femme foot. ;)


:|

I'm sorry, but you lost me here... what does this mean? It sounds like that butch is in some sort of trouble?

[Concrete_Angel]

:|

I'm sorry, but you lost me... what does this mean?

Seriously? Hmmm turn about is fair play?

How about now? :)

[All Flavors]

My imagination was going places, :canadian: I'm glad you cleared that up.

I think I accidently dropped in on the wrong thread. You ladies have a nice day.

[Concrete_Angel]

:|

I'm sorry, but you lost me here... what does this mean? It sounds like that butch is in some sort of trouble?


You edited after I posted. Oh foul. Only in trouble if they can't *take* what they tried to *dish out* :|

:D

[JustaGirl25]

They can be too big they can be too small, but I sure as hell ain't going with them to pick out what fits best. That's THEIR job in my opinion...

[All Flavors]

They can be too big they can be too small, but I sure as hell ain't going with them to pick out what fits best. That's THEIR job in my opinion...

Have we met before, you sound just like my 'ex'?

[knight]

I must admit, in my younger days it was all about the ego for me. I never heard any "Oh Heck No's" , it was a subject that was never bought up, so I guess I was just lucky.

Nowadays, I am completely the opposite in all aspects of a relationship. I ask, listen, then everyone's happy.

[~LadyJane~]

I was very pleased with the butch I am getting to know.. hehe had a variety of sizes to choose from.. *smiles* and said that it's the Lady's choice.. not hers - I am a bit of a size queen but realistic *efg*
I decided that I am going to buy my own hehe *smirks* - can't wait for pay day ;)

[Apocalipstic]

Yes, there is such a thing as 'too big'. Lengthwise in any case for me. It bumps my cervix and that feeling makes me naucious. I don't enjoy it at all. I don't have problem with width. More than that, I like them wide. I remember being with someone once or twice who liked to put a gigantic one in me. Even to the point that it hurt somewhat and that I bled a bit. Hey, it turned us both on. Very nice. I never get scared by the size of a dick. If I think it's too long I just say 'no'. I know the difference between exciting play-pain and what is really very uncomfortable.

Eva

Agreed, a dick can definitely be too long, but thick is great :)

[Sophisticated1]

I must admit, in my younger days it was all about the ego for me. I never heard any "Oh Heck No's" , it was a subject that was never bought up, so I guess I was just lucky.

Nowadays, I am completely the opposite in all aspects of a relationship. I ask, listen, then everyone's happy.


Ahhh youth. Don't you just love how the wisdom of years and experience serves you so much better now! (Probably serves your partners better too ;) )


I was very pleased with the butch I am getting to know.. hehe had a variety of sizes to choose from.. *smiles* and said that it's the Lady's choice.. not hers - I am a bit of a size queen but realistic *efg*
I decided that I am going to buy my own hehe *smirks* - can't wait for pay day ;)

Personally, I think having a varied selection is the way to go. It is the charm, beauty, versatility and practicality of having removable equipment in the first place!

S1

[Eva femme]

They can be too big they can be too small, but I sure as hell ain't going with them to pick out what fits best. That's THEIR job in my opinion... Do you really mean that? :| What do you mean 'job'? I always think that sex with a partner / sexbuddy is something people make together. And going to a shop together to pick out the right dildo's can be so much fun. A prelude to more sex too :D
Personally, I think having a varied selection is the way to go. It is the charm, beauty, versatility and practicality of having removable equipment in the first place!
Oh yes! Several ones for several kinds of ocasions.
Eva

[Apocalipstic]

Do you really mean that? :| What do you mean 'job'? I always think that sex with a partner / sexbuddy is something people make together. And going to a shop together to pick out the right dildo's can be so much fun. A prelude to more sex too :D
Oh yes! Several ones for several kinds of ocasions.
Eva

I agree! I like to pick things out together. :)

Especially if I am the one strapping on. (a)

[shytaurusone]

I just picked up Vixen Creation's "Johnny." Not to long, but it sure is, ahem, "big boned."

We's going for a test drive tonight! (6)

I have the same dildo!!!!

Unfortunately, I haven't been able to use it....except in my solo "stroking" sessions.

Hopefully, it'll be just right when the time comes to put it to the test......

[shytaurusone]

Unfortunately, I've also got to admit that the whole "size" thing is almost kind of a big deal with me. That whole "black men are bigger" taboo has almost messed up everyone's perception of whom's comfortable with what size in bed...at least within the straight black community. I don't know how my peers are handling this, though.... :s

Any insights, anyone?

[Eva femme]

Unfortunately, I've also got to admit that the whole "size" thing is almost kind of a big deal with me. That whole "black men are bigger" taboo has almost messed up everyone's perception of whom's comfortable with what size in bed...at least within the straight black community. I don't know how my peers are handling this, though.... :s

Any insights, anyone?
I am not black and not American so I live in a completely different community. Which might mean that I can't tell you anything that is useful to you. However, I think communication is a universal thing. How about talking with the women you are with? Ask them what they like. And maybe they will say that they want it big to be socially acceptable, even if they actually like it a bit smaller. I don't know. I guess you'll find out together what works for them and for you when you're in bed with them (or on a table, in an alley, in the shower, or any other good place *grin*)

Eva

[All Flavors]

I went to purchase some 'toys' sometime after entering my last relationship. I wanted new toys, which is always a good practice, even if you use condoms everytime with your old ones. I was in the neighborhood of the Toy Store and ask my new girl if she'd go in the store with me? I thought, what a better way to get to know more about her sexually, very quickly. She was blushing, and very shy and timid about the whole situation. She was nevous wreck inside the store, when asking her, "This size, or this one? " Which I couldn't understand her embarrassed, I thought she was going to die reaction? It wasn't likely that any of her co-workers or anyone she knew would be in there...? Maybe some of the shy femmes can shed some light on not liking to shop in these stores?

It would save us butches a lot of guess work when it came time to make love and have a better idea of what she has in mind. It seems that most of the femmes knowing that's where things are headed, would have communicated something about size and preference prior to getting into the bedroom? Making it clear - what is too big, especially, if they were smaller than average. Personally, if this were a planned first-time date - I would have made an effort to find out, because as we are hearing - getting this minor detail wrong can end things quickly. If this is an impromptu encounter, then this might be a different story.

I personally haven't had issues with the wrong size being an issue because usually, there's been some 'courtship' and information gathering leading up this and it probably helps to have a large selection of toys to choose from. I'm not one of those butches that has "one" in particular, that I claim as being 'me' or given it a name. When I'm wearing it, it then becomes a part of me, but, which one that is - depends on what she wants or can tolerate. And, sometimes, I might use several different graduating sizes during love-making.

[Eva femme]

All Flavors, some people are just shy in sexshops. Maybe because they feel it's something 'forbidden'? Or even 'dirty'? Or at least 'indecent'? Maybe especially for a woman? I don't know. I guess you'd have to ask her. Or maybe she was just young and / or inexperienced and a bit overwhelmed? Who knows.

It is not always easy to know what size one likes. In the beginning or after 15 minutes of fucking. It can be totally different. Besides, a lot of women (so I have heard) tend to chose something that is narrower than they actually would like because they can't imagine something very big fitting inside them if they aren't used to it. Don't forget we don't have eyes down there. We can't see what is happening (especially us big girls) Same with length. Some positions take a longer one than other positions. Best thing is to have several dildo's I guess. And then try them all out. Fun! ;)

Eva

[Apocalipstic]

I went to purchase some 'toys' sometime after entering my last relationship. I wanted new toys, which is always a good practice, even if you use condoms everytime with your old ones. I was in the neighborhood of the Toy Store and ask my new girl if she'd go in the store with me? I thought, what a better way to get to know more about her sexually, very quickly. She was blushing, and very shy and timid about the whole situation. She was nevous wreck inside the store, when asking her, "This size, or this one? " Which I couldn't understand her embarrassed, I thought she was going to die reaction? It wasn't likely that any of her co-workers or anyone she knew would be in there...? Maybe some of the shy femmes can shed some light on not liking to shop in these stores?

It would save us butches a lot of guess work when it came time to make love and have a better idea of what she has in mind. It seems that most of the femmes knowing that's where things are headed, would have communicated something about size and preference prior to getting into the bedroom? Making it clear - what is too big, especially, if they were smaller than average. Personally, if this were a planned first-time date - I would have made an effort to find out, because as we are hearing - getting this minor detail wrong can end things quickly. If this is an impromptu encounter, then this might be a different story.

I personally haven't had issues with the wrong size being an issue because usually, there's been some 'courtship' and information gathering leading up this and it probably helps to have a large selection of toys to choose from. I'm not one of those butches that has "one" in particular, that I claim as being 'me' or given it a name. When I'm wearing it, it then becomes a part of me, but, which one that is - depends on what she wants or can tolerate. And, sometimes, I might use several different graduating sizes during love-making.


I am not the shy, blushing type really in the sex department, so I can't help.

But I did have a Butch G/F once who was too embarrassed to go in an adult book store...so its not just Femmes who can be shy.

I think communication is key.

I agree with getting new ones when you start dating someone new!

[Apocalipstic]

All Flavors, some people are just shy in sexshops. Maybe because they feel it's something 'forbidden'? Or even 'dirty'? Or at least 'indecent'? Maybe especially for a woman? I don't know. I guess you'd have to ask her. Or maybe she was just young and / or inexperienced and a bit overwhelmed? Who knows.

It is not always easy to know what size one likes. In the beginning or after 15 minutes of fucking. It can be totally different. Besides, a lot of women (so I have heard) tend to chose something that is narrower than they actually would like because they can't imagine something very big fitting inside them if they aren't used to it. Don't forget we don't have eyes down there. We can't see what is happening (especially us big girls) Same with length. Some positions take a longer one than other positions. Best thing is to have several dildo's I guess. And then try them all out. Fun! ;)

Eva

When I was younger I was embarrased to say "that is just too long and will hurt". So I spent some time pretty miserable.

[Eva femme]

When I was younger I was embarrased to say "that is just too long and will hurt". So I spent some time pretty miserable.
Oy, poor you! :o

Eva

[~LadyJane~]

I agree! I like to pick things out together. :)

Especially if I am the one strapping on. (a)

I'm venturing in to my favorite and most amazing sex store run by dykes..they have a harness that is corset like... and I want it damnit!! I get to be on the other side for the first time!! whooooooopieeeeeeeeeee!

[Tommi]

All Flavors, some people are just shy in sexshops. Maybe because they feel it's something 'forbidden'? Or even 'dirty'? Or at least 'indecent'? Maybe especially for a woman? I don't know. I guess you'd have to ask her. Or maybe she was just young and / or inexperienced and a bit overwhelmed? Who knows.

It is not always easy to know what size one likes. In the beginning or after 15 minutes of fucking. It can be totally different. Besides, a lot of women (so I have heard) tend to chose something that is narrower than they actually would like because they can't imagine something very big fitting inside them if they aren't used to it. Don't forget we don't have eyes down there. We can't see what is happening (especially us big girls) Same with length. Some positions take a longer one than other positions. Best thing is to have several dildo's I guess. And then try them all out. Fun! ;)

Eva

Too big is when you feel her wincing :sand her eyes cross...Different than the Oh My Gawd scresms, then sweet moans, and the eyes:eye-bat: rolling and ...:-*

Looking over at my duffle bag..;), that makes the airport security guards all circle round that monitor...

And along with BigBandit--->, buy the best lube to preserve hyr tender and lonngevity (f)(k)(f).

[OBB Orginal BadBoi]

I ussually keep a selection of all sorts - many have been rather intimated by the size of my more favorite 1s* However the nearly pornstar princesses I have dated liked them large as an understatement so I have serial super sized monster dicks I save for the sizequeens that for the most part stay hiden becuz I get enough heat for having the 1s I regularly do that is considered huge to most except for me and ofcourse those lovers I have had and other sqs that demand more then that..

Only 1 time I ever had size be the issue as it's always been ladys choice with me(unless I was packing and they decided to go for taking what I had on me), but I remember this 1 time I fought w/my g/f becuz I waited and waited till 2months of dating--nosex cuz she wouldn't give it up till I asked her out and I just don't commit to any1 over nite. Anyhow so after all the courting and romancing it came to the nite that was the big all out sex nite for us and we went on a sexstore shopping spree and well she was so excited she picked out something shopping with her eyes . So when it came down to it when we got home---there was just no way. I never dated some1 soo tight that want such a big dick and even her gyno told her she was built abnormally small and that becuz of it would hurt for her to be with a lover who was on the larger side of adverage. So becuz I didn't know this and she selected a pretty impressively sized dick I totally had no idea I was hurting her till I saw it in her eyes while realizing it wasn't entering as it should. That is the only reason why now I keep a few smaller 1's in the box--just incase, but please don't expect a butch to have magical powers to know what size you can't handle or preffer exspecailly when you want to take on more then u know you should. Don't be afraid to say it's too big--or ask for bigger/smaller/thicker whatever yr prefference for pleasure should be becuz we aim 2 please.

[babyboytoy]

I am a big dick boy but not all women can handle it..So cocks ranging in different sizes is a good thing

[Concrete_Angel]

I went to purchase some 'toys' sometime after entering my last relationship. I wanted new toys, which is always a good practice, even if you use condoms every time with your old ones. I was in the neighborhood of the Toy Store and ask my new girl if she'd go in the store with me? I thought, what a better way to get to know more about her sexually, very quickly. She was blushing, and very shy and timid about the whole situation. She was nevous wreck inside the store, when asking her, "This size, or this one? " Which I couldn't understand her embarrassed, I thought she was going to die reaction? It wasn't likely that any of her co-workers or anyone she knew would be in there...? Maybe some of the shy femmes can shed some light on not liking to shop in these stores?




Maybe, like me, it wasn't the store, but more the fear of being embarrassed to pick the wrong one, as in, what if she picked one and said THAT SIZE, and you were like huh? :|

I'm like that. I would not be too shy to be IN the store, but maybe would prefer YOU suggest a size and we could negotiate from there, but at least I'd have a starting point.

OK, I once ordered one on line, that I thought would be a nice *starter*. It came and was not much bigger than a RING finger. :s Of course I would never ask a butch to wear that, and it looked ridiculous even. lol :) I was VERY inexperienced so I had NO clue as to girth, or what it should look/fit like, because I have never even been with a BIO male at all. Maybe she was like me..inexperienced with no clue of what to suggest? :)


I'm in pink! :)


When I was younger I was embarrased to say "that is just too long and will hurt". So I spent some time pretty miserable.

Me too. I didn't spend miserable time however.. I just acted like I didn't like it, and then of course, they thought I was frigid or something, when really I was just too scared to say YIKES!!!!!! lol :)

[All Flavors]

Originally Posted by Concrete Angel

Maybe, like me, it wasn't the store, but more the fear of being embarrassed to pick the wrong one, as in, what if she picked one and said THAT SIZE, and you were like huh? :|

OMG! I just realized that she was a 'virgin' - so to speak, that she had never used 'toys' until I came along, and I thought it was the store itself! Dummy me! And, with all those different assortments, no wonder she had to sit down for a minute to recover, her head was spinning! Thanks for figuring that out for me.

I'm like that. I would not be too shy to be IN the store, but maybe would prefer YOU suggest a size and we could negotiate from there, but at least I'd have a starting point.

Come to think of it - I had to choose. I do vaguely remember asking her, and I know I didn't say it exactly this way, but something like; "Now honey, this is $75, you're sure you're not going to need that extra inch later?"


OK, I once ordered one on line, that I thought would be a nice *starter*. It came and was not much bigger than a RING finger. :s Of course I would never ask a butch to wear that, and it looked ridiculous even. lol :)

:| Are you sure that wasn't made to go somewhere else?

[TIMBERWOLF]

I believe its about the lady. Before going there i,we talk and talk and talk........I ask about what she likes ,what i like, and about size. I ask about past afairs. I talk......... We talk about safe sex, about being tested before we start whatever is to be. We are both Medical, we are not afraid to discuss anything, nor embarressed.........We are matched just right.......Foreplay,heats us up........;):P
TIMBER

[All Flavors]

I believe its about the lady. Before going there i,we talk and talk and talk........I ask about what she likes ,what i like, and about size. TIMBER

Hey Timber, it's good to see you again. Yes, I believe good communications are in order for any aspect of a good relationship. If the lady or butch are inexperienced though, they may be reluctant (or for whatever reason) in bringing up the subject prior to the 'happening', causing some of these disaster stories to happen. Or, I can imagine that some butches might not have a wide selection, causing mis-fits.

And, let us not forgot those that like to use the fingers, hands and arms. What if a butch likes to 'fist', for instance, and his potential new partner has never done this? She's naturally going to think that hys hand IS TOO BIG? And, I've found that if the woman is small - most of the time - it is.

[GemmeFemme]

Wow.. reading everyone's responses in here has been enlightening and enjoyable!! :) SO glad to know I am not the only anti-size queen. I also agree it is in how it is used, and the intent, (read pleasure v/s ego) behind it. :)

I guess if they insist on using a ginormous one, you could show them what it is like when the proverbial...erm.. shoe... is on the..femme foot. ;)

Wow. It's been years since I've been in this thread. Lots of oldies but goodies popping up lately. (y)

No, you are certainly not the only anti-size queen, CA. A study quite some time ago researched men's penis sizes in conjunction with their partner's vaginal capacity in relation to race. Well, some stereotypes are stereotypes for a reason (insert joke of your preference here), but I was a bit suprised to learn that Asian women had the smallest vaginal capacity as a group (which of course corresponded with their partner's...equipment).

I'm half Italian (purebred if you will on my paternal side), but there is quite a bit of conjecture as to exactly what my mom's heritage consists of. For example, there is French, Dutch, and English that we know about. Add in the flair that comes with being born in New Yawwwk and the surrounding areas, but there are physical features that my mother and her twin have that the rest of the 15 kids don't...like almond-shaped eyes and being verrrrry short (my aunt is 4'11"). Yeah, we think Grams fooled around on Pops. :o

So, when I say that I'm built like a tiny Asian woman inside.....I am. :|

That's not to say I wouldn't work up to something larger. Bit and I had a bit of an exchange about this a page or so back umpteen years ago. I can always 'grow' into a larger size, but if my partner and I make an error in judgement with a cock that is simply too large for me and I wind up injured....no one is going ANYWHERE anytime soon (and that's no fun for anyone).

[*~Sassy*~]

Great post Timbers... you are so right.. its about the lady ( and the butch) ...

I have a small frame and don't care to be skewered.. :|



In fact its everything leading up to that act that I enjoy the most..
I wonder if some butches realize they are hurting their girl, and their girl just doesn't want to say anything for ruining the moment..

I don't mind feeling the pain but not when its unintentional ;)




I believe its about the lady. Before going there i,we talk and talk and talk........I ask about what she likes ,what i like, and about size. I ask about past afairs. I talk......... We talk about safe sex, about being tested before we start whatever is to be. We are both Medical, we are not afraid to discuss anything, nor embarressed.........We are matched just right.......Foreplay,heats us up........;):P
TIMBER

[SebastianBruce]

I would ask a lady how much she can take.. in my opinion, it's only polite... If I'm asked how big I am, I usually say, I'm 8inches...(the same size as my feet) roflol!

But, if she can't handle 8inches, then whatever size she can handle, is the size that she will enjoy.. but, if she can take my 8inches, then pass the condoms and the lube and let's get busy! LOL!

[TIMBERWOLF]

Hey Timber, it's good to see you again. Yes, I believe good communications are in order for any aspect of a good relationship. If the lady or butch are inexperienced though, they may be reluctant (or for whatever reason) in bringing up the subject prior to the 'happening', causing some of these disaster stories to happen. Or, I can imagine that some butches might not have a wide selection, causing mis-fits.

And, let us not forgot those that like to use the fingers, hands and arms. What if a butch likes to 'fist', for instance, and his potential new partner has never done this? She's naturally going to think that hys hand IS TOO BIG? And, I've found that if the woman is small - most of the time - it is.

Yes good communications is a key to any type of relationship. And i think that as adults so there is NO misconstued communication that talking about things way before hand is good. I'm not talking about just picking someone up in a bar or park for a little fun.As far as using hands,fingers,fists.........that too is open for talking about. A femme once told me that she looked at my hands because to her they were "sex objects" and to determine if i was too large or not:|

[TIMBERWOLF]

Great post Timbers... you are so right.. its about the lady ( and the butch) ...

I have a small frame and don't care to be skewered.. :|



In fact its everything leading up to that act that I enjoy the most..
I wonder if some butches realize they are hurting their girl, and their girl just doesn't want to say anything for ruining the moment..

I don't mind feeling the pain but not when its unintentional ;)


Well i don't like to hurt someone even in a control situation , so lube and patience and talking to each other .........
Hi Ms Sassy
TIMBER

[TIMBERWOLF]

Too big is when you feel her wincing :sand her eyes cross...Different than the Oh My Gawd scresms, then sweet moans, and the eyes:eye-bat: rolling and ...:-*

Looking over at my duffle bag..;), that makes the airport security guards all circle round that monitor...

And along with BigBandit--->, buy the best lube to preserve hyr tender and lonngevity (f)(k)(f).

:|:|:|:|:o:o;) Hey Tommi.......I agree............Im getting ready to fly for thanksgivng and its like ok they will have fun when hey check out my bag.........
TIMBER

[CalypsoTheNymph]

I am really small in stature so in the beginning my partner usually says
"I am afraid I will hurt you"

My reaction is "yes, please do" ;)

I like whatever my partner is comfortable with.

I adjust.

My pleasure often comes with length since I like it deep
however the right butch knows all the right spots and going
deep, being thick and long has little to do with it.

[All Flavors]

This thread is like quicksand...:D you can't get out of it. It just gets deeper and better!

[knight]

This thread is like quicksand...:D you can't get out of it. It just gets deeper and better!


er um no pun intended, right flav? :icon_2cents:

[WOOF]

I read through this thread and smiled at some of the responses and others truly made me wince.

My cock is a part of me and isn't an extension of my ego. I have learned in the past that through talking and communicating usually (not always) you will know teh appropriate size for the femme. She will drop enough hints or innuendos, heck some will come right and tell you what they want and where to order it. ;)

My experience has taught me that size is not usually an issue (although I would never show up sporting a 10 inch cock). I tend to pack "average". It is much easier to increase in size if the need arises than to deal with knowing I injured someone due to being inconsiderate.

Just remember the benefits is that we as butches/FTMs can go from "is it in yet?" to "OMG" in less than a blink of an eye!;)

[Eva femme]

Of course I would never ask a butch to wear that
Why not? If that size is what feels good to you. And if she doesn't want to she can say no. Well, that's my opinion.

Eva

[All Flavors]

Of course I would never ask a butch to wear that
Why not? If that size is what feels good to you. And if she doesn't want to she can say no. Well, that's my opinion. Eva

We never did determine if this was intended for 'backdoor' usage? If it is - it probably wouldn't stay in most harness rings.

And speaking of harnesses, I have one which has lasted 30 some years now - it is the better of the two. It is the type that goes up the butt crack, vs. the other one that goes around each leg. I find the older one to work much better because it fits snuggly and there is very little slippage.

[Concrete_Angel]

Of course I would never ask a butch to wear that
Why not? If that size is what feels good to you. And if she doesn't want to she can say no. Well, that's my opinion.

Eva

Well I ordered it from on line, and not being...experienced, didn't understand how small it would be. I have appreciated all your opinions in here though. Thanks! :)


We never did determine if this was intended for 'backdoor' usage?


Yeah, NO. The back door has an invisible tattoo that reads, "Exit Only." :| If that doesn't work, a shock collar will. :D

[firiel026]

THIS (http://austin.craigslist.org/zip/826638882.html) *might* be too big

But who knows, where there's a will there's a...

And, it's free!

[Concrete_Angel]

THIS (http://austin.craigslist.org/zip/826638882.html) *might* be too big

But who knows, where there's a will there's a...

And, it's free!

Well, free, but for the hospital bills one might incur from attempting usage. :|

[firiel026]

Finding a harness could be problematic

[Concrete_Angel]

Not to mention a condom....

[firiel026]

Sparkles could really jazz it up though

And maybe disguise for Mom's visits?

Perhaps, a boa?

[Eva femme]

Sparkles could really jazz it up though

And maybe disguise for Mom's visits?

Perhaps, a boa?
HAHAHA! :D
You know you can always recognise the house of an SMer. We have incredibibly big hooks in the wall... with small plants hanging from it to cover up the reason the hooks are there ;)

Eva

[All Flavors]

Well I ordered it from on line, and not being...experienced, didn't understand how small it would be. I have appreciated all your opinions in here though. Thanks! :)



Yeah, NO. The back door has an invisible tattoo that reads, "Exit Only." :| If that doesn't work, a shock collar will. :D

Not to insinuate that was the intention of the purchase. You did say it was by mail order and we all know how photographs can be deceiving. It just sounded that way from your description, that's all.

And, we all know what a touchy subject the 'backdoor' is?

Shock collar! :o

[Concrete_Angel]

Shock collar! :o

I LOVE scaring the heck outta you. :knife: :manicure:

[All Flavors]

I LOVE scaring the heck outta you. :knife: :manicure:


:| I can see that you've got me going! I was passing thru... not intending on staying here this long... there's quicksand all around... and I'm stuck... lol Well... we're finding out a lot about each other - this is a very interesting thread.

[GemmeFemme]

THIS (http://austin.craigslist.org/zip/826638882.html) *might* be too big

But who knows, where there's a will there's a...

And, it's free!



Well, free, but for the hospital bills one might incur from attempting usage. :|


Finding a harness could be problematic


Not to mention a condom....



Sparkles could really jazz it up though

And maybe disguise for Mom's visits?

Perhaps, a boa?

I vote for a Mr. Potato Head style glasses and mustache!

[Concrete_Angel]

I vote for a Mr. Potato Head style glasses and mustache!

Yes, and a Cootie (http://www.toysrus.com/product/prodpop.jsp?LargeImageURL=http%3A//TRUS.imageg.net/graphics/product_images/pTRU1-2907399dt.gif&displayTab=enh&productId=2332398&totCount=0), seems fitting too, as it's pet, or to move it with. :D

[GemmeFemme]

Yes, and a Cootie (http://www.toysrus.com/product/prodpop.jsp?LargeImageURL=http%3A//TRUS.imageg.net/graphics/product_images/pTRU1-2907399dt.gif&displayTab=enh&productId=2332398&totCount=0), seems fitting too, as it's pet, or to move it with. :D

I loved those! :)

[LoverofFemmes]

My personal experience has been: No complaints from the women. Use an average size or alittle above average has seemed an acceptable amount for the women I have been engaged with. The more you have "bed play" the more you can upsize, etc. It's about learning your partner, and her needs and wants. I'm all about pleasing. :)

[TIMBERWOLF]

I can say i never had any complaints and after this weekend of loving and camping with WT we are totally exhusted , but in a good way..;)
TIMBER

[LADY FLAMEZZZ]

ok, so here goes my opinion if when the femme see's it her mouth splits at the corners from shock!!!!!
<gasp>
it's most likely TO BIG !!!!
(n)
but DAY says if it doesn't fit force it,lol
:P
and "no" means "yes".....

juss sayin"

[Tommi]

I vote for a Mr. Potato Head style glasses and mustache!

Hmmmm.. Now, what a great idea...

B-F style..






Stuffed potato, Riding a mustache, and able to see.

I dunno Gemme, but I bet it would be a great conversation PIECE...

[Eva femme]

ok, so here goes my opinion if when the femme see's it her mouth splits at the corners from shock!!!!!
<gasp>
it's most likely TO BIG !!!!
(n)
but DAY says if it doesn't fit force it,lol
:P
and "no" means "yes".....

juss sayin"

I like that concept in an SM-play or in sex with my SM partners. But only there.

Eva

[babyboytoy]

I am a big boy and like women that could handle it bigger

[sonik]

seems to be a pretty hot topic. as far as when i pack its a rare occasion unfortunately bcuz of circumstances of home life work things of that sort. i have yet to find a really decent packer that gives the natural look even harder to find one that is good to pack but also play..ive found one though that seems to work out quite nicely but it does require a nice pair of boxer briefs to keep formation and also to keep from lookin like im walkin round with a hard on all damn day. which sure for some girls lookin that may be nice to stare at o.O but it just aint my thing..my goal is to blend with the male crowd, not need caution/hazards lights when walkin down the street. the one ive found is of cyberskin 7" about 1 3/4" girth so just above average male size when hard. but because of the material its flexible yet holds its shape/firmness really well..its perfect in all aspects.not too big but a little extra umph and when concealed under a pair of boxer briefs it makes a rather realistic bulge under the jeans but not an eye-gouging inhuman bulge of a package. the other is more strickly for play which is about the same dimensions with a little smaller girth so still above average.so theres enough there to make it feel as its an extension of myself with a natural feel and a look that suits me as if i were to be biomale but also not too much of an ego to hurt someone. just gotta..find that..happy medium..also depends on the girl.

[LADY FLAMEZZZ]

I like that concept in an SM-play or in sex with my SM partners. But only there.

Eva



i suppose
(f)
but i was actually only going for a smile
and i only have one partner with that being noted hys words still elicit a huge smile from me,lol
:P(y):P
so i thought i'd share
:ss:

[skinnylaura]

oh my, such great threads buried down in these forums!

if i thought hy were too big, i suppose i'd stall for as long as i could, using my lips and nails (yes, in the kneeling position!). hopefully at some point id be ready after all that work on my knees, that's a huge turnon for me....

[Paramedicdaddy]

What is too big? well my experience is too big is relativeto the teasing and enticing you rpovide for your partner, the hotter she is the more she wants it, teh size she both wants and can takechanges. medically speaking. The location of teh G-spot and teh bartholins glans where she provides her own lube when provoked just right, creates a better outcome with width not length... I have found a rule to live by is with is good depth is bad. At least where G-spot stimulation is regarded. especially whilst you or her stimulates the clitoris.......Also too much activity from your lover while trying to please her, although gives teh impression of totally into yu, teh best orgasm can quite often be achieved by your partner being somewhat subdued and allowed to tantrically lay and enjoy the pleasure being given with out having to provide equal stilulation at the same time. ofcourse unless that is preference at the moment.


Just my opinion. A fist full of things to think about...... :)

Paramedicdaddy

[PwrFemme]

I cannot speak for anyone but myself. The only time it's too big is when I am about to start my period and then everything is not comfortable. Otherwise I'm open to nearly anything she wants to try.

[Paramedicdaddy]

I cannot speak for anyone but myself. The only time it's too big is when I am about to start my period and then everything is not comfortable. Otherwise I'm open to nearly anything she wants to try.

wellllllll wellll welllllll. hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm the mind boggles.

[wickedlilgrrl]

:curtain::jawdrop::bashful:8-):hmm2::bashful::bondmask::giveraspberry:

hehe, interesting topic me thinks..... :eyebat:



and para heres this for you :kissrun:

[everest123]

interesting question?? When it doesn't fit? I think its a matter between a couple, to explore different sizes.....and not for a butches ego to have a big cock! When i make love to my girl i want to be inside her, deeply, to connect with her, feel a part of her body. I want to make love to her with my whole body, but being inside her with my cock is my way of expressing my love for her.

[Sarah M.]

too big? had no idea there was such a cock lol! my butch has strapped on some pretty intimidating dicks, but she definitely knows how to work it in! with enough foreplay & dirty talk she knows she can pretty much have her way with me!!

[Latin princess]

I agree with you UltraHifemme :) "Everyone is different. I think a butch that takes the time to be considerate of the woman they are about to be intimate with shows they care and are not just out for an ego stroke. Some women cringe over a mere 6 inches and some girls beg for 10 or 12 inches. Not gonna say which girl I am LOL"

[sweetboi2]

it definantly depends on the situation....there are times when it is just sex...for sex's sake...and its that take me or not feel to it....I think not knowing what your gonna get is part of the turn on.....but if its someone you have been talking to for a while and you have real emotional relationship then I think most butches really want to know what she wants and wants to plzz her.....at least thats the way it is for me.....when I am emotionally involved then emotions take the lead with me not just my horny asss...lmao....

[take5]

I am a Fem and, I have to agree that it does depend on
the situation.However it is a real turn on to me when a Butch takes
the time to learn what I like.

[Blue33]

From my personal soft butch perspective, the pleasure for me is in pleasing the woman recieving, not how much cock I have to penetrate with, If I wanted to think with my dick I'd be a guy........ That being said a little can go a long way when manipulated with passion and the intent to send her over the edge.......Of course starting small and working your way up is never a bad option which easily occurs if you're doing it right - Moral of the story: good things cum in small packages:)

[ruthie14]

Have to say that I have had experiences where no matter how much foreplay or how attentive my lover, there have been cocks that are too long... girth... I have pretty much stuck with the "average" . So not sure about that. I really don't care to have my cirvex (sp) pounded by the end of a cock. Hurts, no matter how you do it. But thats just me..

[princessinpink]

hmmmm.....I say the bigger the better lol. That is a perk in my opinion being married to trans guy, you can get the whatever size you desire. After I had my hysterectomy, my husband had to downsize a bit, so yes there can always be too big.

[Orkhis]

It depends where it's going but definitely sizeable.

[NickytheDevil]

(6) it's too big when she laughs or runs into the other room screaming " you must be out of yer mind".. it's too small when she laughs or sends you out to the 24 hour porn store to " make a more impressive purchase "...it's just right when she slides into yer lap and whispers " thank you PapaBear"

[take5]

lol.I agree

[SapphosCat]

Ohhh Yum, I must agree with NickytheDevil! Though my personal preference is a bit wider, but not overly long~just right for the g-spot. With the right Butch, it's possible to "try on" larger sizes and find you really really love them lol! Geez I luv these forums, but since I am currently sans partner I really should stop reading because they make my mind wander and my body ache.

[samthor]

i feel both parties should be in on the decision. I want to know how to please her. If she wants it big, i'll go big.