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Hecate
10-12-2007, 08:47 AM
Recent events in the United States have moved us to action. Violence against women is sadly, not a new phenomenon in our country or in the world, however, in the last year women of color have experienced brutal forms of violence, torture, rape and injustice which have gone unnoticed, received little to no media coverage, or a limited community response.

We are responding to:

- The brutal and inhumane rape, torture, and kidnapping of Megan Williams in Logan, West Virginia who was held by six assailants for a month.

- Rape survivors in the Dunbar Housing Projects in West Palm Beach, Florida one of whom was forced to perform sexual acts on her own child.

- A 13 year old native American girl was beaten by two white women and has since been harassed by several men yelling “white power” outside of her home.

- Seven black lesbian girls attempted to stop an attacker and were later charged with aggravated assault and are facing up to 11 year prison sentences.

In a Litany of Survival, Audre Lorde writes, “When we are silent, we are still afraid. So it is better to speak remembering we were never meant to survive.” These words shape our collective organizing to break the silence surrounding women of color’s stories of violence. We are asking for community groups, grass-root organizations, college campus students and groups, communities of faith, online communities, and individuals to join us in speaking out against violence against women of color. If we speak, we cannot be invisible.

Join us and stand up to violence against women!

- Be bold, be brave, be red. Wear red on October 31, 2007. Take a picture or video of yourself and friends wearing red. Send it to: beboldbered@gmail.com (beboldbered%40gmail.com). We’ll post it!

- Take Your Red to the Streets! Know of a location where violence occurred against a woman of color? Have a public location where you feel women of color are often ignored? Make violence against women of color visible by decorating the space in red. Be sure to send us pictures and or video of your display!

- Rally! Gather your friends, family, and community to rally. Check out the Document the Silence website for the litany we’re asking participants to read together on October 31st. Be sure to send us pictures and/or video of the event! You could even gather where you created a display!

- Share your story of silence. Share your own story of silence by uploading it to the Document the Silence website (http://documentthesilence.wordpress.com/). You can send a story in any form you’d like – as a written statement, video clip, movie, documentary, or visual art. Our goal is to document the silences within our relationships, homes, families, communities, jobs, schools, faith communities, governments, and within our world. We want you to share your story of injustice.

Stories that the media, elected officials, self-appointed leaders, and organizations ignore. To upload videos and visual art pieces, please email them to: beboldbered@gmail.com (beboldbered%40gmail.com)

- Find an event to attend with an organization for Women of Color on the Document the Silence website.

- Be an ally. Visit the Document the Silence website to download and read resources about how to be an ally and support to women of color in your community.

- Participate in a Stopping the Violence, Finding Strategies for Healing Town Hall Meeting. Individuals and organizations are asked to sponsor discussion groups on how to effectively address and end violence against women of color. Town Hall Meetings are designed to: document the silences surrounding women of color stories of violence; create “safe spaces” for both women and men to share their stories; and outline ways that people can stay in engaged and make a difference within their own communities. To help facilitate these discussions, we are asking organizations and individuals:

- Show the short movie clip, How Do We Keep a Social Movement Alive?, before beginning the discussion about violence committed against women of color.

http://www.jumpcut.com/view?id=E44BFBCE67BF11DC9030000423CF037A

- Download the resources and activities, which can be found on our website.

Important Side notes:

- We understand that October 31, 2007 is Halloween. For most families it’s a time to be with their children. Even though Halloween is about “fake” and “imagined” terrors, the violence committed against women of color is very “real.” Not only is it a “real” reality on October 31st, but it’s also a “real” terror for the rest of the year.

- We also understand that it may be difficult for some women of color to share their stories of violence and we respect their decision not to document the silence.

- We also understand that the coalition of women who are working on the be bold, be brave campaign are an ad hoc group dedicated to amplifying and making more visible the work that so many women of color organizations engage in daily to end violence against women of color.

Stop the violence, End the silence!!!!

Winter_
10-13-2007, 09:50 PM
Hecate, I know these are not your words because I clicked on the link you provided and realized that your whole post was cut and pasted from the website. So, please do not think any of my comments are being directed at you.

Stories of silence? I get the symbolism, but absolutely despise the word choice. Women (of every color) are brutalized all the time. Sure, they can share monstrous accounts of rape, torture, and horror. Some can also share their endurance, strength, and survival. Others cannot. But none of them should be asked to portray the hell they went through as stories of silence. Just because some of us have never shared our deepest wounds does not make them silent stories. To the contrary, they are stories that scream within us. They are stories that have shaped who we are today. They are not even stories. They are our life experiences.

The last line of Audre Lorde's poem "Litany for Survival" urged us to "speak remembering we were never meant to survive." It was a message to empower, not demean, shame, or criticize. The poem reminded me that I triumphed over adversity. To then interpret that powerful message of survival into one of silence is just plain wrong. Audre Lorde was not a woman of silence. Neither am I. Neither are women who were raped. We are more powerful, whether we admit it or not, and we are wiser. No, we do not have stories of silence. We have stories of fire, stories that burn from our insides out. Those kinds of stories are never silent. They scream within us every day. If you pay attention, you can see these stories in our interactions, in our communications, even in our sleep. They may be our "stories," but neither we nor they ever remain silent.

Hecate
10-13-2007, 11:01 PM
I respect your feelings and experiences as I respect your life.

I am reading this message totally different than you are. No where are they telling anyone to be silent. Actually, quite the opposite. Please reread it when you're able. I don't see or hear what you do. I think they're trying to break the silence by having wimin tell their stories that they kept silent,maybe even inside themselves. No two people have the same feelings all the time in the same way. Yours and others experiences may not be one and the same all the time. There are individual and group, cultural differences. So your experience may not belong to everyone(especially all the time).

Thank you for sharing your words and story.

gumby
10-13-2007, 11:18 PM
Red it is. Thanks Hecate.


g.

Winter_
10-14-2007, 02:25 PM
your experience may not belong to everyone(especially all the time). Thank you for sharing your words and story.

Not to belabor the point, but I shared my opinion, not my story.
Also, as you politely implied and I do not dispute, of course my experience belongs to noone but me. The sentiment I expressed in my post also belongs to me. It is all mine. It was my reaction to the words you cut and pasted from a website. It was not personal. As it turns out, however, my reaction also happens to belong to at least 7 other women on this site, based on the feedback I have since received. I do not claim to speak for all the women of the world. If that was truly what you walked away thinking about after reading my post, perhaps you should reread it when you are able.

Chance333
10-15-2007, 03:53 PM
Hecate, this is great event……..

It seems to be focusing on a number of important things all at once:

- Raising awareness that crimes of violence against POC, including rape, are under reported in the media. This is a just fact.

- Providing a venue for women to testify to their experiences of rape and violence – in some cases for the first time. This strikes me as a very good thing. I know several women who have yet to speak openly about this - myself, included.

- Creating a coalition of people making “connections”, personally and politically, about things that are ignored, overlooked, under-reported and/or hidden deep within themselves. What a great way for people to see the interconnectedness between violence, sexism, racism and other forms of oppression.

- Calling to account the media, elected officials, institutions, etc. who minimize and/or ignore folks who are in these situations.


Winter, I’m very glad that you have come through your personal experience(s) empowered.

However, I’m not understanding what it is that you’re taking issue with, here?

As to your statement: “Stories of silence? I get the symbolism, but absolutely despise the word choice. Women (of every color) are brutalized all the time. Sure, they can share monstrous accounts of rape, torture, and horror. Some can also share their endurance, strength, and survival. Others cannot. But none of them should be asked to portray the hell they went through as stories of silence. Just because some of us have never shared our deepest wounds does not make them silent stories. [It does for me!?!?] To the contrary, they are stories that scream within us. They are stories that have shaped who we are today. They are not even stories. They are our life experiences.”

I am not reading “stories of silence” the same way as you. No, not at all….. I read it as meaning stories of what it is like to keep silent about the things that have happened to us - at least for those of us who have kept silent.

My “silence” is an important part OF my personal story. Why didn't I speak up sooner?!?!



As to your comment about “choice” – I guess you are referring to this statement on the video site:

“Stories that the media, elected leaders, self appointed leaders, associations, and organizations choose to ignore and not speak out on. We want to document so many silences that the silences become uncensored uninhibited noise.”

http://www.jumpcut.com/view?id=E44BFBCE67BF11DC9030000423CF037A


I understand their use of the term “choice” as referring to the FOLKS IN POWER who choose to ignore or not respond to violence against women or POC.


As to this..........

"The last line of Audre Lorde's poem "Litany for Survival" urged us to "speak remembering we were never meant to survive." It was a message to empower, not demean, shame, or criticize. The poem reminded me that I triumphed over adversity. To then interpret that powerful message of survival into one of silence is just plain wrong. Audre Lorde was not a woman of silence. Neither am I. Neither are women who were raped. We are more powerful, whether we admit it or not, and we are wiser. No, we do not have stories of silence. We have stories of fire, stories that burn from our insides out. Those kinds of stories are never silent. They scream within us every day. If you pay attention, you can see these stories in our interactions, in our communications, even in our sleep. They may be our "stories," but neither we nor they ever remain silent."

I'm pleased that you have spoken out about your experience(s) - I admire you for that, but not everyone has been able to, or allowed to, do that. That is, in part, what this event seems to be about - those who may be "screaming on the inside", but as yet unable to speak aloud.

Wouldn't it be a shame if they continued to silent, alone, ignored and forgotten. (f)

Winter_
10-16-2007, 07:06 PM
Winter, I’m very glad that you have come through your personal experience(s) empowered....I am not reading “stories of silence” the same way as you. No, not at all….. I read it as meaning stories of what it is like to keep silent about the things that have happened to us - at least for those of us who have kept silent. My “silence” is an important part OF my personal story. Why didn't I speak up sooner?!?!...Wouldn't it be a shame if they continued to [feel] silent, alone, ignored and forgotten.

First off, I am anything but the poster-woman for being empowered because of sexual violence. No more than 4-7 people in my life even know what happened to me. I wrestle with it every day. I know the pain, the guilt, the fears, the flashbacks, nightmares, and panic attacks.

To be clear, I do not take issue with requesting stories from women of color who "have experienced brutal forms of violence, torture, rape and injustice which have gone unnoticed..." To the contrary, I think that these stories need to be told; these stories are valuable; and these stories should have a powerful impact on society at large.

My problem with the request for "stories of silence" is that it is a poor choice of words for attempting to collect such experiences. Again I will reiterate that just because some of us have never shared our deepest wounds does not make them silent stories. Instead of calling them "stories of silence," how about calling them Stories of Survival, Tales of Courage, Experiences Denied... These "stories," at the very core, are not about silence but violence. It was (and remains) my opinion and gut reaction that a call for "stories of silence," in this context, is extremely insensitive and borders on demeaning to both those who remained silent and those who did not. Our choice to remain silent, for those of us who did, does not diminish what we were forced to live through.

And, yes, it would be a terrible shame if those women who feel alone, ignored, and forgotten were not given a safe place to share their stories. But that was not the point of my post.

Hecate
10-16-2007, 07:33 PM
Thank you Winter for your clarification. I wasn't understanding until now.

nihilisia
10-16-2007, 07:35 PM
the red is so gonna clash with my hallowe'en costume

Winter_
10-16-2007, 07:43 PM
Thank you Winter for your clarification. I wasn't understanding until now.
Phew! (y) :) (y) :)

nihilisia
10-16-2007, 08:59 PM
I'm happy to do this - but the date is a strange choice. So many people will be dressed up that day. It seems the red wouldn't have the same impact amid halloween costumes and such.

daisyfm
10-16-2007, 09:20 PM
Hecacte: thanks for posting this.
Violence against women is still in our homes, schools, at work, etc. It's in our lives. How horrible. It's 2007. Not exactly the world that women before us dreamed of.
The abuse survivors among us should not be the only ones who understand violence. All people should because everyone has seen or heard about it.
Definitely go red!!!!!!!!!
The concern is not local, it's Worldwide.

mistyblue9802200
10-16-2007, 09:23 PM
Being someone like alot of others on B-F who has suffered sexual, physical & emotinal abuse, i just wanted to say thankyou for starting this thread as like most threads you will get different opinions sum will differ greatly but at end of the day you intentions are for the right reasons so i just wanted to say *Nice one* & i look forward to reading sum great posts i have no doubt(f)

RED IT IS !

daisyfm
10-18-2007, 07:14 PM
Sorry I did not spell your name correctly before in my post. Hecate!!!!!!!!!. it's great you started this.
I hope more ppl take the time to see this and to think about how to end violence.
Peace.