the town

[engine red]

i'm fairly new here...and i interact mainly with my buddies in real time but, not too many femmes to my unfortunate demise. so i don't get out much in this rural part of upper ny state.

can you tell me something dear femmes?

maybe it's been said before, i don't know, maybe it's been asked, i don't know and that's why i'm sincerely asking you:

do you still like to laugh on a few first dates? have fun, go to the races, dance, a concert, a play? out to dinner? wined and dined? that foreplay (without the sex) all in fun? maybe a ride to the beach? a longing...postponed? but truly date? and just let loose? get to know someone - whether it be for the short term or not - just to be in the company of someone who can really show you the town? a sunday brunch, a movie? nothing heavy. just real dating. no expense is too much. a free for all. lots of fun. champagne on a tuesday....

do you still like that kind of dating?

[FemmePhotographer]

Uh, yeah! Sign me up. LOL. Of course I couldn't answer for anyone else....but it sounds fabulous to me. I seriously doubt you would get many complaints...Best wishes.

[engine red]

thanks...though all it is...is a curious thing for me to find out about what women like....that's all. ;)

[GrrlWonder]

Me and my man miss dates! It's all life-stuff now and it takes alot of creativity to remember how to be wined and dined on dates... We have been together four and a half years! A date now is renting a movie. Lots of love, less money, snuggling in bed is really nice.... hmm... yeah thats about it.

[cltfemme]

Red, don't play coy now. You know exactly what femmes like and don't like on a date. ;)

[caroline_8]

engine red,

What do you think Femmes prefer on the first few dates? Do you mean feeling like they have certain expectations? Do you mean that we're forgetting the "little things?" It seems to me that with so much of our time spent in cyberspace and/or at work and/or at school that we lose site of how important the little things are.

On my last date, we went to a park and hopped on the swings after dinner. It was a lot of fun, and it's something I haven't done in a long time. I used to love to swing as a little girl. :D

What other kind of dating do you have in mind?

Caroline

[engine red]

caroline...not unlike you, i like the simple things as well. what? you don't think i still throw a frisbee around with someone i like? lay out a blanket and have a picnic? sure.

but i like it BIG, too. that's all i'm saying.


now stop spoilin' my fun... :D and have some fun out there... ;)

[caroline_8]

Ah, engine red,

Isn't the point that the "little" things are are the "big" things? I LOVE dressing up and going out on the town if that is what you mean. A night at the ballet or theatre would be awesome! A night out at a posh restaurant would also rock.

Are you suggesting that the Femmes you know don't like these things? You should be happy that they are cheap dates! LOL

:D Caroline

...So, what is your description of an ideal date?

[engine red]

LOL! oh no, you don't.... ;) i refuse to answer on the grounds that i may become edumacated.

[caroline_8]

engine red,

You'll be WHAT? I am quite sincere in my inquiry. Are you trying to distinguish between what kind of dates Femmes prefer?

It's funny b/c I work at the Michigan Womyn's Music Festival, and there are a plethora of dates one can go on...snuggle date, star date, fire date, sex date, concert date, workshop date...the list goes on. I guess that is what got my mind going.

:D Caroline

[toriwants]

I think it has alot to do with what you're looking for. If you want something long term then yes laughing, talking, getting to know one another on a very intellectual level is good. People do tend to let their hormones take over at times though. It's natural. Some people only want the here and now of knowing someone. They're not looking down the road.

There's no right or wrong answer to what you like to do on a first date. It just depends on the people involved and what they want out of it.

I personally love the sunday picnic with just finger foods and wine. Laughing and talking. Going for long walks holding hands...... (sigh) Yes those are very enjoyable. I think we forget about those simple things sometimes.

[caroline_8]

tori,

Good answer! Ah, I can't remember the last time I went on a picnic. Holding hands is always nice, too.

*Sigh*
Caroline

[FemmeDyke]

Mmm... those are the most perfect dates in the whole wide world.

i love to giggle until my sides hurt, go to carnivals, go paddleboating, get silly with someone, be child-like, watch the clouds, get dirty... um... like literally, take long walks, and yes... hand holding is wonderful, being close to someone who makes you comfortable is nice...

i hate that those moments end so soon. Not everyone you meet is going to be relationship material but, you can enjoy their company and have a lot of fun.
I wish that there wasn't all that pressure to make any kind of commitment - because when that happens, the thrills are gone too...

but yes... yes.. to answer your question... there are girls out here that love those kind of dates..

[engine red]

thanks. so, that's pretty much what i was inquiring about.

i like a gregarious woman, i always have. i never cared for the quiet or shy types.

'you want this bottle on the menu? come on, let's do it.' frig it. let's go for broke. by showing her 'the town' i get to see how she interacts (if at all). should she say, 'oh, no, no. i couldn't.' it burns my fun.

but if she says, 'you are crazy. yeah, let's do it.' i'm on fire.

and not all the time, sheesh. but sometimes it's great.

i was just curious to know if some preferred crazy, fun, gettin' gussied up, kinda' dates, where you spend all your money on a saturday night, kinda' date.

i once got my girl and 2 other couples together and we spent a saturday afternoon (everyone chipped in, i couldn't afford the other 2 couples), aboard a rented catamaran for a day on long island sound. man, it was great. what a time. the drinks flowed, the music played, the wind was generous (but not too incompliant); a perfect summer's day. we pulled into port about 8 pm and then had after dinner drinks at the water's edge overloooking the Sound in Bayville, Long Island. we ordered appetizers and champagne. and there was a small band inside as we dined outside on the deck with the boats bobbing up and down. i can't remember what type of music that band played, but i can recall even now that between my love (and how beautiful she was in the glow of that day and night), my friends, the music, the warm night, my sunburned skin, and how good it felt to be alive, it was probably one of the most enjoyable days i have ever realized.

cheers to you, ladies. (f)

[caroline_8]

Oh, you mean throwing caution to the wind and doing something spontaneous and/or out of the ordinary. YES, I like that...I guess I can't speak for all Femmes.

My ex and I once decided to take off to a cabin on the spur of the moment...we got more than we bargined for b/c we got snowed in, but it was the kind of memory that stays with you.

:D
(*) Caroline (*)