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    This Weekend in the YaY! Area 

    by
    Miz Chris
    Published on 08-04-2010 05:14 AM

    Hello, hello, hello!

    AUGUST is HERE!!!!! Whew! Do we have HELLA things for you to do this week and this MONTH! GOOD TIMES continues to grow and grow and grow. Thanks to everyone for coming out every week to support this community event that continues to be a no cover event with Free Food, hot music and a fabulous MC Mona Webb. 300+ beautiful people grace us with the presence every week. So THANK YOU and see you tonight.

    GIRLSTOCK kicks off this Friday at Mama Buzz Cafe then head over to the New Parish for EAST BAY LOVE. Head over to San Francisco on Saturday for HARD FRENCH. Finally on Sunday come out to the Oakland Pride Fundraiser at Pizzaiola, HELLA GAY GOOD TIMES where 100% of the funds raised will go to help build the first ever Oakland LGBT Community Center.

    AHHHHH but this month is hella packed with amazing events we have GIRLSTOCK, the FEMME CONFERENCE, OAKLAND PRIDE , BLISS and we are proud to announce a collaboration from the producers of Eden Weekend, Tease and Bliss for San Jose Pride. FIRE & ICE comes to San Jose on August 21st at Agenda Lounge on 1st Street, a Pride Party created by women for women and our friends. It is gonna be off the hook!

    For the rest of the story click this link (work and computer safe) http://tinyurl.com/2fukdpy

    Enjoy your weekend, no matter where you go, and I hope to see you at any or all these events. Be safe and be happy!

    xoxo,
    Miz Chris

    A Queer Fat Femme 

    Published on 07-15-2010 10:07 AM

    A Self-Love Moment by Bevin



    At the Femme Family meeting on Tuesday, in the middle of a terrible heat wave hitting NYC, our go-around topic was “Describe your inner body temperature.” Mine was the rage of a Disney villain. A fat one. (In the words of Dave End*, “Never fuck with a witch who puts on lipstick with a shrimp.”) I get heat sick pretty easily and almost fainted during yoga on Monday, so by day 3 of the heat storm I was so grumpy. So grumpy that I barely put on clothes. I picked out the thing that felt the least like wearing clothes that I could.

    This is an old photo from an old queeraoke night, but this is what I wore. It’s a stretchy H&M large cotton tank dress (I want more but never seem to find them), which is slutty fat girl size. I was singing “Everything She Wants” by Wham!
    How can a meeting with such empowering Femmes not raise my spirits? On my way home I realized how grateful I was to have done so much work over the last 11 years to unlearn the body shame that would have, otherwise, kept me hot and miserable and covered up in layers upon layers of clothes trying to hide my body. Feeling good about my body and sexuality is so much more comfortable, both literally and figuratively.
    So this goes out to all of the amazing people in my life, who taught me early on the joy and value of loving yourself and moving in your body in ways that make you feel good.
    Further, I’m still getting comments and emails about my post In Solidarity With Those Who Have Been Called Too Much. “Too much” to one person is another person’s “SO much”. Remember that and keep the faith.
    To that end, happy birthday to Rachel Schiff, a protege of mine. She is a beautiful ray of light in this world and I am so happy she is in my life! At 22 years old she’s already a kick starter and a rabble-rouser for social justice and good times. San Francisco is lucky to have her.

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    This Weekend in the YaY! Area 7/14-7/18 

    by
    Miz Chris
    Published on 07-15-2010 10:02 AM

    Hello, hello, hello!

    Editor's Note: Every week I send out a newsletter detailing events I like in the Bay Area. it is called "This Weekend in the YaY! Area". If you would like to receive that newsletter in your email inbox every Tuesday you may sign up on my blog site www.mizchris.com. If you have events that you would like to submit for consideration to the newsletter please use the Contact Us link at the bottom of this page to send me the info.

    WOW! The Bay Area does not disappoint this weekend! We have dancing, poetry and performances, OH MY! As usual we start the week at GOOD TIMES at a special location ERA on Grand Ave, following the BATTLE of the BAY on Thursday at the SAN FRANCISCO CITY SLAM AND EXPERIMENTAL MIC. We slide into the weekend at .flourish in the city and back to Oakland on Saturday for HELLA GAY and ending the weekend with the FEMME CONFERENCE fundraiser DEBAUCHERY.

    Events to look forward to in coming months... GIRLSTOCK, the FEMME CONFERENCE, OAKLAND PRIDE and BLISS!

    Enjoy your weekend, no matter where you go, and I hope to see you at any or all these events. Be safe and be happy!

    For the full story click this link (work and computer safe) http://tinyurl.com/25ocoal

    xoxo,
    Miz Chris

    SPECIAL NOTE: WETBAR, TEASE & AFTERGLOW will be taking the month of July off to recuperate from Pride. FullCircle, BoiBlue and Movement Productions will be back in full effect in August, so we will see you then!

    Something to be proud of 

    by
    Sartorial Butch
    Published on 06-28-2010 02:46 PM

    Happy Pride Month everyone!!

    Being as it is Pride month and all, I thought I’d continue on my previous column where I talked a little bit about my philosophy on life; living with confidence and kindness. In order to do this it is imperative that you do not cut others down. I know that seems like a no-brainer but really, it’s something that I see all the time. If I’m being 100% honest, it’s something that I know I’ve done in the past as well, sometimes it made me feel better about myself by cutting someone else down – for whatever reason. Fashion? Looks? Relationship status? Identity? Yeah, I’m guilty of all of that.

    But it’s something I’m working on really really hard. And sometimes, when the world brings us down so much, it’s easiest to judge other queers because their idea their own identity isn’t how we see ours. And that’s scary because if my idea of butch is totally different than someone else’s idea of butch, then who’s right? Is it me? Is it them? Truth of it is – it’s both.
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    This Weekend in the YaY! Area 6/2-6/6 

    by
    Miz Chris
    Published on 06-02-2010 02:09 PM

    Editor's Note: Every week I send out a newsletter detailing events I like in the Bay Area. it is called "This Weekend in the YaY! Area". If you would like to receive that newsletter in your email inbox every Tuesday you may sign up on my blog site www.mizchris.com. If you have events that you would like to submit for consideration to the newsletter please use the Contact Us link at the bottom of this page to send me the info.

    First things first, the DYKE MARCH needs to raise $5000 before June 15th! This amazing yearly event is a cornerstone of SF Pride activities for women across the world. There are over 15,000 of us on this newsletter, if just 1/3 of us donate $1 dollar today we can ensure that the SF Dyke March will happen! Please donate whatever you can from $1 and beyond by clicking the link below.

    http://www.communityin.org/sfdykemarch.html

    Happy GAY HOLIDAZE!

    Pride month is beginning right now! We start the Pride right with GOOD TIMES. On Thursday join Rebecca Kaplan for COME OUT OAKLAND at the Bench and Bar. QUEER REBELS OF THE HARLEM RENAISSANCE is going down this Friday IN SF. AND Saturday hit up the newest party to hit SF, SOUF. End your weekend at the 1st Official Pride event for San Francisco Pride WETbar.
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    Satorial Butch 

    by
    Sartorial Butch
    Published on 05-31-2010 08:40 PM

    Becoming the Butch That You Are

    I thought that I’d start this first “real” column with a couple of words on how as butches we can be the best people, friends, and partners that we can possibly be. Oftentimes, we walk through a less than hospitable world where we are certainly the “outsiders.” Unfortunately, sometimes we are treated like outsiders in our own queer communities.

    Recently, I was involved in a butch fashion show at a vintage clothing store in Brooklyn, NY. I was surrounded by incredible queers of all kinds, and some very amazing butch folk. I was asked to speak a bit on fashion for butches. After talking a little bit about what inspired me to start writing my blog, I changed course a little bit and steered my introduction to how I manage to be the best butch (and person) that I can be. It has so little to do with how we dress or look, and it’s long been understood that there is an infinite number of ways “to be butch,” but everything about who we really are is entrenched in how we act and treat others.
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    Bevin's Queer Fat Femme 

    by
    Bevin
    Published on 05-26-2010 12:31 PM

    In Solidarity With Those Who Have Been Called “Too Much”

    I have a bestie who lives far away. When we used to visit only once a year and not keep up with each other regularly, as soon as she would pick me up from the airport I would ask for the current love life run-down. She is polyamorous and it was (and still is) always an interesting mix of folks.

    One time, the list included a girl she was particularly fond of and things were going quite well, except that the girl’s other love interest was quite the opposite of my bestie. “I don’t know how to describe her except that she’s just… very beige.”

    What made the situation, and Beige herself, so vexing was that the love interest was starting to spurn my bestie for Beige. “I just don’t know what she sees in Beige. She’s the exact opposite of me.”

    This love push and pull between my bestie, that girl, and Beige would go on for years, with the girl bouncing back from monogamy with Beige to my bestie and back again.

    I have incorporated the descriptor “Beige” in my love vocabulary now. It’s hard to describe what Beige even means, as a personal trait. Maybe it’s just the absence of bold color? I just know it’s pretty much the opposite of glitter. I identify as glitter, which to me is a color.

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    Vagina Jenkins has been told that she is “too much”. Also check out her kickstarter so she can bring her too much to your town!
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